人生不设限·我也曾一度放弃希望

When I tell my audiences to hold on for better days, I speak from experience. You can believe and trust in what I say because I have been there. At one point in my life I gave up hope.

我的童年大部分时间都很快乐，但是10岁时，负面想法淹没了我。无论我多么努力让自己乐观、意志坚定和富有创意，总有些事我的确做不来，其中有些只是简单的日常活动，这让我很困扰。例如：我就不能像其他小孩一样，从冰箱里抓一瓶饮料出来;不能自己吃饭也让我觉得挫折，我很讨厌开口要人家帮忙，因为这样会一直打断别人吃饭。

This low point in my mostly happy childhood came around the age of ten, when negative thoughts overwhelmed me. No matter how optimistic and determined and inventive I tried to be, there were some tasks I just could not do. Some of them were simple, everyday activities. It really bothered me, for example, that I couldn't grab a soda out of the refrigerator like every other kid. I couldn't feed myself, and I hated to ask other people to do it. I felt bad that they had to interrupt their meals to help me.

还有一些更大的问题是我这段时期挥之不去的阴影：我能找到一个爱我的人做妻子吗?我要怎么养家糊口?当我的家人被欺负时，我如何保护他们?

Other, bigger issues haunted me in this period of my life: Would I ever find a wife to love me? How would I provide for her and our children? How could I protect them if they were threatened?

大多数人也会有这种想法，某些时刻，你会担心自己能不能拥有持久的关系、稳定的工作或安全的居所。往前看很正常、很健康，这样才能发展出对未来的憧憬。不过，当负面想法妨碍你展望未来、让你变得忧郁时，问题就出现了。所以我会祷告，并且用上帝的话语提醒自己，他永远与我同在，从没离开我、忘记我，甚至会让最坏的事出现最好的结果。我告诉自己无论外在环境如何，都要紧抓住上帝的承诺。我知道上帝是美好的，如果他允许坏事发生，尽管我不一定可以理解，但我相信上帝一定有良善美意。

Most people have such thoughts. You probably have wondered at some point whether you would ever have a lasting relationship, a secure job, or a safe place to live. It is normal and healthy to look ahead because that is how we develop a vision for our lives. The problem comes when negative thoughts block your vision for the future and cloud your mind. I pray and I remind myself of the word of God, who helps me know that He is with me. He never leaves me. He hasn't forgotten me. He will cause even the worst things to come together for the good. I remind myself to hold on to the promises of God, no matter what I see on the outside. I know that God is good. If He allows something bad to happen, I may not understand, but I can hold on to His goodness.