生活百科提高交友能力的四个方法

 

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Step 1: Talk To Lots of People（踊跃发言）
Have you heard the old saying, "You have to kiss a lot of frogs to find a prince?" Well, you have to talk to a lot of people to find a friend! Look at this as a numbers game: The more people you get to know on an "acquaintance" basis, the better chance you have of finding someone with whom you'll "click." Make small talk with the people you meet. If you are shy or just out of practice, this can seem excruciatingly difficult, so just break the ice by asking them questions like "Where do you live?" or "What do you do?". Compliment them, by saying "I like your shoes/top. Where is it from?". This is a conversation starter and everyone likes to be complimented!

Step 2: Join A Group（参加小组）
A great way to meet new people is to join a social group, like a book club, an exercise class, salsa or pottery - anywhere where you can meet people. Joining something like this not only means that you will automatically have something "in common" to talk about, but being around people in an organized setup also means that you will see these people regularly, and therefore will have a much better chance to get to know them.

Step 3: Spend Time Together（多花时间）
After you've identified some potential friends, it's time to make a small gesture. Send a birthday card. Invite her out to coffee. Don't be shy; you'll need to take this small risk to let them know you're interested. Activities such as shopping, going to the cinema and discussing the film afterwards, or reading the same books are helpful at this stage of a friendship because they allow you to discover each other's attitudes and find some common ground. Some friendships never move beyond this level, remaining casual, and others end at this stage. Others will grow and flourish and become solid, lifelong friendships.

Step 4: Make Friends Your Priority（朋友第一）
If having friends is important to you, you must make time for it in your busy schedule. Make friendship a priority in your life. Commit to making two phone calls a week, or extending one invitation a week, or whatever you need to get the results you want. Be consistent and don't give up. Remember to expect some rejection. Not everyone has room in their lives for new friends. That's not your fault. At the same time, be willing to take some risks in your quest for new friends. Tell yourself you've got nothing to lose, and the lifelong benefits of friendship to gain.

【词汇讲解】

1.excruciatingly adv. 极痛苦地，极其地

2.setup n. 装备，组织，计划

如：During setup, you have the option of saving your system files so that you can uninstall window95 later. 
在安装过程中，会有保存系统文件的选项以便使你可以在以后卸掉Windows95。

Press the setup button to display the setup menu, and move the highlight down to audio. 
按Setup键显示Setup菜单，然后移动亮条到Audio选项上。

3.consistent adj. 始终如一的，一致的，坚持的

如：I left as early as it was consistent with politeness. 
我在不失礼的情况下提前离去了。

The last five years have seen a consistent improvement in the country's economy. 
在最近的五年里，这个国家的经济状况一直在好转。

4.rejection n. 拒绝，被弃，被抛弃的实例

如：Her rejection dashed him. 
她的拒绝使他狼狈[难堪]。

Her rejection of him seems to have made him go back into his shell. 
他遭她拒绝後就更不爱吭声了。

The rejection of their pay claim was given a less than rhapsodic reception by the miners. 
矿工要求提高工资遭到拒绝而甚为恼火。