Aurora Winter， author of From Heartbreak to Happiness， says loneliness， disappointment and anger are all symptoms of grief and studies show most people suffer from unresolved grief.
“Divorce， death and disappointments can all hurt your chances of finding love -- without you knowing it. Unresolved grief blocks love. I can tell you from personal experience that no one wants to compete with a ghost，” Winter， who founded the Grief Coach Academy after the sudden death of her husband at age 33， says in a statement. “People who have lost a spouse to death frequently yearn for their late husband or wife.”
It‘s a very small step between resenting one’s former partner and being bitter at the opposite sex in general -- including your date -- but to find love， it is absolutely essential that people heal unresolved grief from prior relationships， Winter advises.
“The most attractive people are genuinely happy，”Aurora says in a statement. “People want to be around happy people. Happy people get the best dates， the best jobs and the best opportunities.”
“Happiness is feeling good about the present and optimistic about the future，”Aurora says.