If you're the object of another's jealousy:
* Save the brag-athon for after work.
"It's often not the closer relationships with bosses, the promotions, or the raises that create hostility," explains Tina Lewis Rowe, a career coach in Denver. "It's the way the employee with good fortune handles it.”
来自丹佛市的职业教练Tina Lewis Rowe说：“导致敌意的往往不是和老板关系紧密、晋升或加薪，而是交了好运的员工处理的方式。”
Don't name-drop the CEO you had lunch with, mention the conference you're attending or talk excitedly about your new job or salary with less-fortunate coworkers. "Even a saint would have trouble smiling and being happy for someone in those circumstances," she says.
* Don't apologize.
It's natural to feel humbled by a wonderful career development, but those who didn't get the raise don't want to hear how undeserving you feel, said Lewis Rowe. Chances are, they might agree.
* De-escalate tension.
If you're a new manager for former peers, encourage your new staff's strengths.
"You need to know what to do to make all the people (in your department) stars," she says. "I was always finding the most successful people and promoting them out from underneath me. That's an accomplishment that the employee and the manager can agree they did together."