求助：我被我们公司的一个供应商吸引了

求助：我被我们公司的一个供应商吸引了

I’ve developed a crush on someone who deals with our company as a vendor. Do the same rules apply as they do to employees when it comes to fraternization and potential claims of harassment? I can’t believe we have to think this way, but it seems we can’t have feelings at work anymore.

我迷上了一个和我们公司做生意的供应商。当涉及到亲密关系和潜在的性骚扰指控时，这些规则是否也适用于员工?我不敢相信我们必须这么想，但似乎我们在工作中再也不能有感情了。

First of all, Cupid, unless you’re still in high school and talking about the girl who supplies the hamburgers to the concession stand where you flip the patties during a summer job, you shouldn’t call what you are describing a “crush,” OK? But seriously, in general, the same rules of conduct apply to vendors and clients of a company as they do to employees — meaning you can’t be a jerk and treat people poorly or make them feel uncomfortable. That said, most companies don’t have policies forbidding romantic relationships with vendors of the company unless it creates a conflict of interest or the appearance of one. And while the workplace is more fraught than ever when it comes to relationships, millions of people still manage to find love at work without creating a hostile environment. Treat people respectfully, paying attention to the social cues about whether someone is interested. If you misread the cues, the worst offense is having asked the person out on a date. Then apologize and don’t make the other person feel uncomfortable. It’s called being a responsible, self-aware, respectful human.

首先，丘比特，除非你还在上高中，还在谈论那个在小卖部卖汉堡包的女孩，那个你在暑期打工时卖馅饼的女孩，你不应该把你描述的事情叫做“迷恋”，好吗?但严肃地说，总的来说，同样的行为准则也适用于公司的供应商和客户，就像适用于员工一样——这意味着你不能像个混蛋那样对待别人，或者让他们感到不舒服。也就是说，大多数公司并没有禁止与公司供应商发生恋爱关系的政策，除非这造成了利益冲突或出现了利益冲突。尽管工作场所的人际关系比以往任何时候都令人担忧，但仍有数百万人在工作中找到了真爱，而没有创造一个充满敌意的环境。尊重他人，注意他人是否感兴趣的社交暗示。如果你看错了线索，最糟糕的错误就是约了对方出去。然后道歉，不要让对方感到不舒服。这就是做一个负责任、有自知之明、尊重他人的人。