I expected to be applauded for my cleverness and arithmetic skills.
"Jeff, you're so smart.You had to have made some tricky estimates, figure out the number of minutes in a year and do some division."
That's not what happened.
Instead, my grandmother burst into tears.
I sat in the backseat and did not know what to do.
While my grandmother sat crying, my grandfather, who had been driving in silence, pulled over onto the shoulder of the highway.
He got out of the car and came around and opened my door and waited for me to follow.
Was I in trouble?
My grandfather was a highly intelligent, quiet man.
He had never said a harsh word to me, and maybe this was to be the first time?
Or maybe he would ask that I get back in the car and apologize to my grandmother.
I had no experience in this realm with my grandparents and no way to gauge what the consequences might be.
We stopped beside the trailer.
My grandfather looked at me, and after a bit of silence,
he gently and calmly said, "Jeff, one day you'll understand that it's harder to be kind than clever."
What I want to talk to you about today is the difference between gifts and choices.
Cleverness is a gift, kindness is a choice.
Gifts are easy -- they're given after all.
Choices can be hard.
You can seduce yourself with your gifts if you're not careful,
and if you do, it'll probably be to the detriment of your choices.
This is a group with many gifts.
I'm sure one of your gifts is the gift of a smart and capable brain.
I'm confident that's the case because admission is competitive
and if there weren't some signs that you're clever, the dean of admission wouldn't have let you in.
Your smarts will come in handy because you will travel in a land of marvels.
We humans, plodding as we are,will astonish ourselves.
We'll invent ways to generate clean energy and a lot of it.
Atom by atom, we'll assemble tiny machines that will enter cell walls and make repairs.
This month comes the extraordinary but also inevitable news that we've synthesized life.
In the coming years, we'll not only synthesize it, but we'll engineer it to specifications.
I believe you'll even see us understand the human brain.
Jules Verne, Mark Twain, Galileo, Newton -- all the curious from the ages would have wanted to be alive most of all right now.
As a civilization,we will have so many gifts, just as you as individuals have so many individual gifts as you sit before me.