Thank you, President Hennessy, and to thetrusteesand the faculty, to all of the parents andgrandparents, to you, the Stanford graduates.Thank you for letting me share this amazing day withyou.
I need to begin by letting everyone in on a little secret. The secret is that Kirby Bumpus,Stanford Class of '08, is my goddaughter. So, I was thrilled when President Hennessy asked meto be your Commencement speaker, because this is the first time I've been allowed on campussince Kirby's been here.
You see, Kirby's a very smart girl. She wants people to get to know her on her own terms, shesays. Not in terms of who she knows. So, she never wants anyone who's first meeting her toknow that I know her and she knows me. So, when she first came to Stanford for new studentorientation with her mom, I hear that they arrived and everybody was so welcoming, andsomebody came up to Kirby and they said, "Ohmigod, that's Gayle King!" Because a lot ofpeople know Gayle King as my BFF [best friend forever].
正如你们知道的那样Kirby是一个非常聪明的女孩。她说，她希望大家通过她自己的努力了解她，而不是她认识谁。因此她从来不希望每一个第一次见到她的人知道她认识我。当她和她妈妈第一次来到斯坦福参加开学典礼时，我听说每个人都十分热情。他们说：“我的天啊，那是Gayle King”。因为很多人都知道Gayle King是我最好的朋友。
And so somebody comes up to Kirby, and they say, "Ohmigod, is that Gayle King?" And Kirby'slike, "Uh-huh. She's my mom."And so the person says, "Ohmigod, does it mean, like, you knowOprah Winfrey?"And Kirby says, "Sort of."
有些人走到Kirby面前，对Kirby说：“我的天啊，那是Gayle King吗?”Kirby说：“嗯，她是我妈妈。”然后人们说：“我的天啊，难道说，你认识Oprah Winfrey。”Kirby说：“有点吧。”
I said, "Sort of? You sort of know me?" Well, I have photographic proof. I have pictures which Ican e-mail to you all of Kirby riding horsey with me on all fours. So, I more than sort-of knowKirby Bumpus. And I'm so happy to be here, just happy that I finally, after four years, get tosee her room. There's really nowhere else I'd rather be, because I'm so proud of Kirby, whograduates today with two degrees, one in human bio and the other in psychology. Love you,Kirby Cakes! That's how well I know her. I can call her Cakes.
我说：“有一点。你有一点认识我”。我还有照片为证。我可以把Kirby 和我骑马时的照片e-mail给你们。因此我不仅仅只是有点认识Kirby Bumpus。我非常高兴来到这里，因为四年来我第一次来到她的寝室。我为Kirby感到自豪，因为她获得了人类生物学和心理学的双学位。这就是我多么的了解她。我可以叫她Cakes。
And so proud of her mother and father, who helped her get through this time, and her brother,Will. I really had nothing to do with her graduating from Stanford, but every time anybody'sasked me in the past couple of weeks what I was doing, I would say, "I'm getting ready to go toStanford."
I just love saying "Stanford." Because the truth is, I know I would have never gotten my degreeat all, 'cause I didn't go to Stanford. I went to Tennessee State University. But I never wouldhave gotten my diploma at all, because I was supposed to graduate back in 1975, but I wasshort one credit. And I figured, I'm just going to forget it, 'cause, you know, I'm not going tomarch with my class. Because by that point, I was already on television. I'd been in televisionsince I was 19 and a sophomore. Granted, I was the only television anchor person that had an11 o'clock curfew doing the 10 o'clock news.
Seriously, my dad was like, "Well, that news is over at 10:30. Be home by 11."
But that didn't matter to me, because I was earning a living. I was on my way. So, I thought,I'm going to let this college thing go and I only had one credit short. But, my father, from thattime on and for years after, was always on my case, because I did not graduate. He'd say, "Oprah Gail"—that's my middle name—"I don't know what you're gonna do without thatdegree." And I'd say, "But, Dad, I have my own television show."
And he'd say, "Well, I still don't know what you're going to do without that degree."
And I'd say, "But, Dad, now I'm a talk show host." He'd say, "I don't know how you're going toget another job without that degree."
So, in 1987, Tennessee State University invited me back to speak at their commencement. Bythen, I had my own show, was nationally syndicated. I'd made a movie, had been nominated foran Oscar and founded my company, Harpo. But I told them, I cannot come and give a speechunless I can earn one more credit, because my dad's still saying I'm not going to get anywherewithout that degree.
So, I finished my coursework, I turned in my final paper and I got the degree.And my dad wasvery proud. And I know that, if anything happens, that one credit will be my salvation.
But I also know why my dad was insisting on that diploma, because, as B. B. King put it, "Thebeautiful thing about learning is that nobody can take that away from you." And learning isreally in the broadest sense what I want to talk about today, because your education, ofcourse, isn't ending here. In many ways, it's only just begun.
但是我知道为什么我爸爸总是坚持让我获得文凭，因为，正如B. B. King所说：“关于学习的美好在于别人不会把知识从你身上拿走”学习正是我今天想说的，因为你们的教育并没有在这里结束。在很多情况下，这才是刚刚开使。
The world has so many lessons to teach you. I consider the world, this Earth, to be like aschool and our life the classrooms. And sometimes here in this Planet Earth school the lessonsoften come dressed up as detours or roadblocks. And sometimes as full-blown crises. And thesecret I've learned to getting ahead is being open to the lessons, lessons from the grandestuniversity of all, that is, the universe itself.
It's being able to walk through life eager and open to self-improvement and that which isgoing to best help you evolve, 'cause that's really why we're here, to evolve as human beings.To grow into more of ourselves, always moving to the next level of understanding, the nextlevel of compassion and growth.
I think about one of the greatest compliments I've ever received: I interviewed with a reporterwhen I was first starting out in Chicago. And then many years later, I saw the same reporter.And she said to me, "You know what? You really haven't changed. You've just become more ofyourself."
And that is really what we're all trying to do, become more of ourselves. And I believe thatthere's a lesson in almost everything that you do and every experience, and getting the lessonis how you move forward. It's how you enrich your spirit. And, trust me, I know that innerwisdom is more precious than wealth. The more you spend it, the more you gain.
So, today, I just want to share a few lessons—meaning three—that I've learned in my journeyso far. And aren't you glad? Don't you hate it when somebody says, "I'm going to share a few,"and it's 10 lessons later? And, you're like, "Listen, this is my graduation. This is not about you."So, it's only going to be three.
The three lessons that have had the greatest impact on my life have to do with feelings, withfailure and with finding happiness.
A year after I left college, I was given the opportunity to co-anchor the 6 o'clock news inBaltimore, because the whole goal in the media at the time I was coming up was you try tomove to larger markets. And Baltimore was a much larger market than Nashville. So, getting the6 o'clock news co-anchor job at 22 was such a big deal. It felt like the biggest deal in the worldat the time.
And I was so proud, because I was finally going to have my chance to be like Barbara Walters,which is who I had been trying to emulate since the start of my TV career. So, I was 22 yearsold, making $22,000 a year. And it's where I met my best friend, Gayle, who was an intern atthe same TV station. And once we became friends, we'd say, "Ohmigod, I can't believe it! You'remaking $22,000 and you're only 22. Imagine when you're 40 and you're making $40,000!"
When I turned 40, I was so glad that didn't happen.
So, here I am, 22, making $22,000 a year and, yet, it didn't feel right. It didn't feel right. Thefirst sign, as President Hennessy was saying, was when they tried to change my name. Thenews director said to me at the time, "Nobody's going to remember Oprah. So, we want tochange your name. We've come up with a name we think that people will remember and peoplewill like. It's a friendly name: Suzie."
Hi, Suzie. Very friendly. You can't be angry with Suzie. Remember Suzie. But my name wasn'tSuzie. And, you know, I'd grown up not really loving my name, because when you're looking foryour little name on the lunch boxes and the license plate tags, you're never going to findOprah.
So, I grew up not loving the name, but once I was asked to change it, I thought, well, it is myname and do I look like a Suzie to you? So, I thought, no, it doesn't feel right. I'm not going tochange my name. And if people remember it or not, that's OK.
And then they said they didn't like the way I looked. This was in 1976, when your boss couldcall you in and say, "I don't like the way you look." Now that would be called a lawsuit, but backthen they could just say, "I don't like the way you look." Which, in case some of you in theback, if you can't tell, is nothing like Barbara Walters. So, they sent me to a salon where theygave me a perm, and after a few days all my hair fell out and I had to shave my head. Andthen they really didn't like the way I looked.Because now I am black and bald and sitting on TV.Not a pretty picture.
But even worse than being bald, I really hated, hated, hated being sent to report on otherpeople's tragedies as a part of my daily duty, knowing that I was just expected to observe,when everything in my instinct told me that I should be doing something, I should be lending ahand.
So, as President Hennessy said, I'd cover a fire and then I'd go back and I'd try to give thevictims blankets. And I wouldn't be able to sleep at night because of all the things I wascovering during the day.
And, meanwhile, I was trying to sit gracefully like Barbara and make myself talk like Barbara.And I thought, well, I could make a pretty goofy Barbara. And if I could figure out how to bemyself, I could be a pretty good Oprah. I was trying to sound elegant like Barbara. Andsometimes I didn't read my copy, because something inside me said, this should bespontaneous. So, I wanted to get the news as I was giving it to the people. So, sometimes, Iwouldn't read my copy and it would be, like, six people on a pileup on I-40. Oh, my goodness.
And sometimes I wouldn't read the copy—because I wanted to be spontaneous—and I'd comeacross a list of words I didn't know and I'd mispronounce. And one day I was reading copy andI called Canada "ca nada." And I decided, this Barbara thing's not going too well. I should trybeing myself.
But at the same time, my dad was saying, "Oprah Gail, this is an opportunity of a lifetime. Youbetter keep that job." And my boss was saying, "This is the nightly news. You're an anchor,not a social worker. Just do your job."
So, I was juggling these messages of expectation and obligation and feeling really miserablewith myself. I'd go home at night and fill up my journals, 'cause I've kept a journal since I was15—so I now have volumes of journals. So, I'd go home at night and fill up my journals abouthow miserable I was and frustrated. Then I'd eat my anxiety. That's where I learned thathabit.
And after eight months, I lost that job. They said I was too emotional. I was too much. Butsince they didn't want to pay out the contract, they put me on a talk show in Baltimore. Andthe moment I sat down on that show, the moment I did, I felt like I'd come home. I realizedthat TV could be more than just a playground, but a platform for service, for helping otherpeople lift their lives. And the moment I sat down, doing that talk show, it felt like breathing. Itfelt right. And that's where everything that followed for me began.
And I got that lesson. When you're doing the work you're meant to do, it feels right and everyday is a bonus, regardless of what you're getting paid.
It's true. And how do you know when you're doing something right? How do you know that? Itfeels so. What I know now is that feelings are really your GPS system for life. When you'resupposed to do something or not supposed to do something, your emotional guidancesystem lets you know. The trick is to learn to check your ego at the door and start checkingyour gut instead. Every right decision I've made—every right decision I've ever made—hascome from my gut. And every wrong decision I've ever made was a result of me not listeningto the greater voice of myself.
If it doesn't feel right, don't do it. That's the lesson. And that lesson alone will save you, myfriends, a lot of grief. Even doubt means don't. This is what I've learned. There are many timeswhen you don't know what to do. When you don't know what to do, get still, get very still, untilyou do know what to do.
And when you do get still and let your internal motivation be the driver, not only will yourpersonal life improve, but you will gain a competitive edge in the working world as well.Because, as Daniel Pink writes in his best-seller, A Whole New Mind, we're entering a whole newage. And he calls it the Conceptual Age, where traits that set people apart today are going tocome from our hearts—right brain—as well as our heads. It's no longer just the logical, linear,rules-based thinking that matters, he says. It's also empathy and joyfulness and purpose,inner traits that have transcendent worth.
当你什么也不要做时，让你的内心作为驱动力。不仅仅你的个人生活会提高，你在工作中也会获得竞争力。正如Daniel Pink在他的畅销书A Whole New Mind中所说的那样，我们进入了一个新时代，一个他称之为概念时代的时代。人们的内心使人与人之间产生隔阂。他说，重要的不仅仅是逻辑上的，线性的，直尺式的思维方式。移情，快乐，目标和内部特质同样也有卓越的价值。
These qualities bloom when we're doing what we love, when we're involving the wholeness ofourselves in our work, both our expertise and our emotion.
So, I say to you, forget about the fast lane. If you really want to fly, just harness your powerto your passion. Honor your calling. Everybody has one. Trust your heart and success willcome to you.
So, how do I define success? Let me tell you, money's pretty nice. I'm not going to stand uphere and tell you that it's not about money, 'cause money is very nice. I like money. It's goodfor buying things.
But having a lot of money does not automatically make you a successful person. What youwant is money and meaning. You want your work to be meaningful. Because meaning is whatbrings the real richness to your life. What you really want is to be surrounded by people youtrust and treasure and by people who cherish you. That's when you're really rich.So, lessonone, follow your feelings. If it feels right, move forward. If it doesn't feel right, don't do it.
Now I want to talk a little bit about failings, because nobody's journey is seamless or smooth.We all stumble. We all have setbacks. If things go wrong, you hit a dead end—as you will—it'sjust life's way of saying time to change course. So, ask every failure—this is what I do withevery failure, every crisis, every difficult time—I say, what is this here to teach me? And as soonas you get the lesson, you get to move on. If you really get the lesson, you pass and you don'thave to repeat the class. If you don't get the lesson, it shows up wearing another pair of pants—or skirt—to give you some remedial work.
And what I've found is that difficulties come when you don't pay attention to life's whisper,because life always whispers to you first. And if you ignore the whisper, sooner or later you'llget a scream. Whatever you resist persists. But, if you ask the right question—not why is thishappening, but what is this here to teach me?—it puts you in the place and space to get thelesson you need.
My friend Eckhart Tolle, who's written this wonderful book called A New Earth that's all aboutletting the awareness of who you are stimulate everything that you do, he puts it like this: Hesays, don't react against a bad situation; merge with that situation instead. And the solutionwill arise from the challenge. Because surrendering yourself doesn't mean giving up; it meansacting with responsibility.
我的朋友Eckhart Tolle。他写了一本非常棒的书，名叫A New Earth。这本书就是关于让你的意识激励你去做事。他说，不要去反抗困境，相反，要融入到其中。事情会变的越来越好的。因为暂时的屈服并不意味着放弃，它意味着一种责任感。
Many of you know that, as President Hennessy said, I started this school in Africa. And Ifounded the school, where I'm trying to give South African girls a shot at a future like yours—Stanford. And I spent five years making sure that school would be as beautiful as thestudents. I wanted every girl to feel her worth reflected in her surroundings. So, I checkedevery blueprint, I picked every pillow. I was looking at the grout in between the bricks. I knewevery thread count of the sheets. I chose every girl from the villages, from nine provinces. Andyet, last fall, I was faced with a crisis I had never anticipated. I was told that one of the dormmatrons was suspected of sexual abuse.
That was, as you can imagine, devastating news. First, I cried—actually, I sobbed—for abouthalf an hour. And then I said, let's get to it; that's all you get, a half an hour. You need to focuson the now, what you need to do now. So, I contacted a child trauma specialist. I put togethera team of investigators. I made sure the girls had counseling and support. And Gayle and I goton a plane and flew to South Africa.
And the whole time I kept asking that question: What is this here to teach me? And, as difficultas that experience has been, I got a lot of lessons. I understand now the mistakes I made,because I had been paying attention to all of the wrong things. I'd built that school from theoutside in, when what really mattered was the inside out.So, it's a lesson that applies to all ofour lives as a whole. What matters most is what's inside. What matters most is the sense ofintegrity, of quality and beauty. I got that lesson. And what I know is that the girls came awaywith something, too. They have emerged from this more resilient and knowing that their voiceshave power.
And their resilience and spirit have given me more than I could ever give to them, which leadsme to my final lesson—the one about finding happiness—which we could talk about all day, but Iknow you have other wacky things to do.
Not a small topic this is, finding happiness. But in some ways I think it's the simplest of all.Gwendolyn Brooks wrote a poem for her children. It's called "Speech to the Young : Speech tothe Progress-Toward." And she says at the end, "Live not for battles won. / Live not for the-end-of-the-song. / Live in the along." She's saying, like Eckhart Tolle, that you have to live forthe present. You have to be in the moment. Whatever has happened to you in your past hasno power over this present moment, because life is now.
追求幸福并不是一个小话题。但在某种程度上来说它又是最简单的话题。Gwendolyn Brooks为她的孩子写了一首诗，诗名是Speech to the Young : Speech to the Progress-Toward.在诗的最后她说到，不要为了战胜而生活，不要为了歌曲的结尾而生活，要享受生活。她说，你应当为了现在而生活，无论过去发生了什么都不应该影响到现在，因为生活就是过好现在。
But I think she's also saying, be a part of something. Don't live for yourself alone. This is what Iknow for sure: In order to be truly happy, you must live along with and you have to stand forsomething larger than yourself. Because life is a reciprocal exchange. To move forward youhave to give back. And to me, that is the greatest lesson of life. To be happy, you have to givesomething back.
I know you know that, because that's a lesson that's woven into the very fabric of thisuniversity. It's a lesson that Jane and Leland Stanford got and one they've bequeathed to you.Because all of you know the story of how this great school came to be, how the Stanfords losttheir only child to typhoid at the age of 15. They had every right and they had every reason toturn their backs against the world at that time, but instead, they channeled their grief and theirpain into an act of grace. Within a year of their son's death, they had made the founding grantfor this great school, pledging to do for other people's children what they were not able to dofor their own boy.
我知道你们已经很了解了，因为这个经验已经深深的融入了斯坦福。这个经验是Jane and Leland传承给你们的。因为你们所有的人都知道这座伟大的大学是如何建成的。斯坦福夫妇的独子在15岁时得了伤寒离开了他们。他们有权利和理由去恨这个世界，但是他们却用优雅的行动疏导了心中的悲伤。在他们儿子死后不到一年内，他们已经这所伟大的大学筹集了建设经费，并发誓要为别人的孩子做一些他们自己的孩子不能得到事。
The lesson here is clear, and that is, if you're hurting, you need to help somebody ease theirhurt. If you're in pain, help somebody else's pain. And when you're in a mess, you get yourselfout of the mess helping somebody out of theirs. And in the process, you get to become amember of what I call the greatest fellowship of all, the sorority of compassion and thefraternity of service.
The Stanfords had suffered the worst thing any mom and dad can ever endure, yet theyunderstood that helping others is the way we help ourselves. And this wisdom is increasinglysupported by scientific and sociological research. It's no longer just woo-woo soft-skills talk.There's actually a helper's high, a spiritual surge you gain from serving others. So, if you wantto feel good, you have to go out and do some good.
But when you do good, I hope you strive for more than just the good feeling that serviceprovides, because I know this for sure, that doing good actually makes you better. So,whatever field you choose, if you operate from the paradigm of service, I know your life willhave more value and you will be happy.
I was always happy doing my talk show, but that happiness reached a depth of fulfillment, ofjoy, that I really can't describe to you or measure when I stopped just being on TV andlooking at TV as a job and decided to use television, to use it and not have it use me, to use itas a platform to serve my viewers. That alone changed the trajectory of my success.
So, I know this—that whether you're an actor, you offer your talent in the way that mostinspires art. If you're an anatomist, you look at your gift as knowledge and service to healing.Whether you've been called, as so many of you here today getting doctorates and otherdegrees, to the professions of business, law, engineering, humanities, science, medicine, if youchoose to offer your skills and talent in service, when you choose the paradigm of service,looking at life through that paradigm, it turns everything you do from a job into a gift. And Iknow you haven't spent all this time at Stanford just to go out and get a job.
You've been enriched in countless ways. There's no better way to make your mark on the worldand to share that abundance with others. My constant prayer for myself is to be used inservice for the greater good.
So, let me end with one of my favorite quotes from Martin Luther King. Dr. King said, "Noteverybody can be famous." And I don't know, but everybody today seems to want to befamous.
But fame is a trip. People follow you to the bathroom, listen to you pee. It's just—try to peequietly. It doesn't matter, they come out and say, "Ohmigod, it's you. You peed."
That's the fame trip, so I don't know if you want that.
So, Dr. King said, "Not everybody can be famous. But everybody can be great, becausegreatness is determined by service." Those of you who are history scholars may know the restof that passage. He said, "You don't have to have a college degree to serve. You don't have tomake your subject and verb agree to serve. You don't have to know about Plato or Aristotle toserve. You don't have to know Einstein's theory of relativity to serve. You don't have to knowthe second theory of thermodynamics in physics to serve. You only need a heart full of graceand a soul generated by love."
In a few moments, you'll all be officially Stanford's '08.
You have the heart and the smarts to go with it. And it's up to you to decide, really, where willyou now use those gifts? You've got the diploma, so go out and get the lessons, 'cause I knowgreat things are sure to come.
You know, I've always believed that everything is better when you share it, so before I go, Iwanted to share a graduation gift with you. Underneath your seats you'll find two of my favoritebooks. Eckhart Tolle's A New Earth is my current book club selection. Our New Earth webcasthas been downloaded 30 million times with that book. And Daniel Pink's A Whole New Mind:Why Right-Brainers Will Rule the Future has reassured me I'm in the right direction.
你们知道，我一直坚信，如果你和他人分享，那么事情就会变得更好。所以在我离开之前，我想和大家分享一下毕业礼物。在你们的座位底下，你们会发现两本我最喜欢的书。Eckhart Tolle的A New Earth流行书俱乐部的精选品。我们的New Earth广播已经被下载3亿次。Daniel Pink的A Whole New Mind: Why Right-Brainers Will Rule the Future 使我确定我在人生的正轨上。
I really wanted to give you cars but I just couldn't pull that off! Congratulations, '08!