这9大行为，可能会毁了你的恋情！

研究表明，以下9种会终止一段恋情。如果你有这些行为，请赶快摆脱它们吧：

1. You are unhappy in your relationship. 

你在恋情里并不开心。

If you often feel unhappy, uncomfortable, stressed, or evenburdened, it's the first and most important sign you're in adestructive dead-end relationship.

如果你经常感到不开心、不舒服、有压力，甚至有负担，这是关系破裂的首个也是最重要的标志。

Just be honest with yourself, and admit that you're in a "toxic" relationship.Try to identify what "benefits" this relationship brings to you.For example, it saves you from the fear of loneliness.

对自己诚实一点，承认自己处于“病态”的关系中。试着找出恋情给你带来的“好处”。例如，它可以让你免于孤独的恐惧，或者你害怕独自一人。

2. You can't be yourself when you are with your partner. 

你和你的伴侣在一起时不能做你自己。

When you're with the "right" person you don't have to fakeanything: you can be yourself. You can be foolish and clumsy and not feel guilty about it. When you're together you behave naturally, as if you were alone.

你和“正确”的人在一起时，不必假装什么:你可以做你自己。你既愚蠢又笨拙，也不会为此感到内疚。当你们在一起的时候，你会表现得很自然，就好像你是一个人。

If in your relationship you have to turn to your acting skills too often, you deprive yourself of the experience of being authentic, which holds you back from developing your relationship.

如果在你们的关系中，你不得不经常求助于你的演技，你会剥夺自己的真实，这将阻碍发展你们的关系。

3. Your partner is too controlling. 

你对象管你管的太严了。

Watch out if your significant other spies on you, monitors your phone conversations, social media, and e-mail, wants you to share everything with them, and even demands you turn over your paycheck.

小心你身边的伴侣，对方可能会监控你的电话，社交媒体和电子邮件，希望你和他们分享一切，甚至要求你交出薪水。

Such partners only pretend to be loving and caring. In fact, they take total control over your life in the form of emotional abuse and invade your personal space. This is unacceptable in a relationship.

这样的伴侣只是假装爱和关心。事实上，他们以情感虐待的形式控制你的生活，侵犯你的个人空间。这在恋爱关系中是不认可的。

4. You live in isolation. 

你独自一人相处。

Your loved one is trying to isolate you from your friends and family, forbids you from using your phone or car, or maybe even prevents you from finding a good job.

你的爱人正试图将你与朋友和家人隔离，禁止你使用手机或汽车，甚至可能阻止你找到一份好工作。

It's a form of domestic abuse that leads to psychological and economic dependence on your partner.

这是家庭暴力的一种形式，会导致对伴侣在心理和经济上的依赖。

5. Your parter is too jealous. 

你对象的嫉妒心太重。

You're dating an overly jealous and possessive freak if he or she causes big scenes in public, controls your calls, socialmedia use, etc.

你和一个过分嫉妒和占有欲很强的人约会，那么他可能会在公共场合大闹一番，控制你的电话，社交媒体的使用等等。

You have to realize it's not love. It's a form of psychologicalabuse, and it shouldn't be ignored.

你必须意识到这不是爱。这是一种心理虐待，不应该被忽视。

6. Your partner always underestimates you and your achievements.

 你的伴侣总是低估你和你的成就。

It's time for you to leave if you often hear from your partnerthat you're just an ordinary person with so-so achievements. They're trying to convince you that no one will ever appreciate you, but the worst thing is that you start to believe it's true.

如果你经常听到你的伴侣说你只是一个普通的人，那么你还是离开吧。他们试图让你相信没有人会欣赏你，但最糟糕的是你开始相信这话是真的。

It's your partner who needs help, not you! Apparently, youremotional manipulator has problems with self-confidence and tries to raise their low self-esteem by belittling you.

你的伴侣需要帮助，不是你！显然，你的情绪是自信的问题，对方试图通过贬低你来提高他们的自尊。

7. It's almost impossible to plan your future together.

几乎不可能一起计划你的未来。

Mutual confidence, a sense of security, and plans for that far-off future together. It's all different in an unhealthy relationship: you don't even have short-term plans, and you're trying to find an excuse for why you're still together.

共同的信心、安全感和对未来遥远未来的规划，在一段不健康的关系中是另一番景象: 你甚至都没有短期计划，而你还想找个借口解释为什么你们要继续在一起。

If you never talk or can't ever think about your future, it's one of those signs you're in a toxic relationship.

如果你从不发表意见，或永远不思考你的未来，那你已处于一种有害的关系中了。

8. Your partner always tries to make you feel guilty.

你的伴侣总是试图让你感到内疚。

Your partner always tries to put the blame on you for what'sgoing on with your relationship. As a result, you often feel like you have to explain something, although you shouldn't.

你的伴侣总试图把两人之间出现的问题归咎于你。因此，你经常觉得自己不得不解释一些事情，尽管你不应该解释。

Your skilled manipulator doesn't want to take responsibility.He or she will do everything to make you feel guilty, thus achieving their own goals.

你得熟练地表现出自己不想承担责任。因为他或她会竭尽所能让你感到内疚，从而实现他们自己的目标。

9. Uncontrollable episodes of impulsive aggression.

不可控制的冲动暴力事件。

Sometimes even the cool-headed ones can flip out, but it shouldn't become a common thing. If your partner gets angryeasily, especially when the situation isn't that stressful, suchrelationships can be dangerous.

有时，即使是头脑冷静的人也会忘记控制自己，但这不应该让暴力成为一件普通的事情。如果你的伴侣很容易生气，特别是在没有压力的情况下，这种关系会很危险。

Uncontrollable impulsive aggression always leads to emotional, economic, and physical violence.

不可控制的冲动总会导致情绪、经济和身体上的暴力。

两个人相处，就是要多包容多体谅。维持一段感情不容易，可别因为一些不妥的小行为而破坏了与你对象之间的感情哦～