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2021年09月20日

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用爱的眼神看伴侣

How we see our partners often depends more on how we are than how they are. Husbands and wives are not audience, but participant observers in each other's lives. "Before we were married, my husband was a caring, energetic man," a wife once told me. "He couldn't seem to keep his hands off me. Since we've been married, he's become a couch potato and watches ball games more than he watches me. He's gone from stud to spud."

我们怎样看自己的伴侣常常取决于我们自己怎么样，而不是对方怎么样。丈夫也好，妻子也好，都不是观众，而是深入到对方生活的观察者。一个妻子曾对我说：“结婚前，我丈夫是一个关心体贴、精力充沛的人，他的手好像没法从我身上移开。结婚后，他变成了一个懒蛋，看球赛比看我还多。他从猛男变成了‘懒蛋’。”

"Very funny," answered the husband. "But have you looked at yourself lately? When we got married, you were beautiful. Now you wear that old robe. If I've gone from stud to spud, then you've gone from doll to drudge."This hurtful, infantile argument illustrates how spouses, instead of looking for love, may look for flaws. It is a way of seeing.

这种互相伤害又带有孩子气的争吵清楚地说明夫妻如何互相挑毛病，而不是寻找爱。这是一个看问题的方法问题。“真逗，”她丈夫回答道，“不过最近你有没有瞧瞧你自己是啥模样？我们结婚前，你很漂亮。现在你穿的是破旧的睡袍。如果说我从猛男变成了懒蛋，那你就是从美女变成苦工。”

Author Judith Viorst once wrote, "Infatuation is when you think he's as gorgeous as Robert Redford, as pure as Solzhenitsyn, as funny as Woody Allen, as athletic as Jimmy Connors, and as smart as Albert Einstein. Love is when you realize he's as gorgeous as Woody Allen, as smart as Jimmy Connors, as funny as Solzhenitsyn, as athletic as Albert Einstein , and nothing like Robert Redford in any category--but you'll take him anyway."

作家朱迪斯·厄斯特曾写道：“当你觉得他像罗伯特·雷德福一样仪表堂堂，像索尔仁尼琴一样心地纯洁，像伍迪·艾伦一样言谈风趣，像吉米·康纳斯一样身体矫健，像阿尔伯特·爱因斯坦一样头脑聪明，那你就被爱冲昏了头脑。当你认识到他在长相方面像伍迪·艾伦，头脑方面像吉米·康纳斯，言谈方面像索尔仁尼琴，身体方面像阿尔伯特·爱因斯坦，无论在哪一方面都不像罗伯特·雷德福--但你却偏偏要嫁给他，这才是真正的爱。”

This law of lasting love instructs us to look with instead of for love.

持久爱情的这一法则教导我们要用充满爱意的眼神去看自己的伴侣，而不是用寻找爱的眼神去看他（她）们。

　　【京翰·广州远景路校区地址】

广州市白云区，机场路266号首层。