美国文化脱口秀 第406期:你误解了love和hate的含义

今天说说英语里最简单、也最复杂的两个词：“爱”和“恨”，英语的用法和中文很不一样!听Jenny, Adam教你如何使用英语的爱恨情仇!

关键词：

Love: 爱

Hate: 恨

The use of "love" and "hate" in English is completely different from Chinese: 爱、恨在英语里的用法和中文非常不同

It's nowhere near the same: 大相径庭、完全不同

比如：如果你听到"I love you",你的第一反应是?

"So sweet!"

"I love you too!"

但是，美国人的反应是：

Love是一颗炸弹!

大家记得最近节目放过一首歌"Something stupid"吗?

歌词有一句：

Then I go and spoil it all by saying something stupid like "I love you"

Why is saying "I love you" stupid? 说“我爱你”怎么会很傻呢?

Isn't it sweet? 不是很甜蜜吗?

We call it "drop the L bomb": 英语有个说法，叫扔L炸弹

Too much too soon: 压力太大、来得太快

Americans tend to be very careful when it comes to saying "I love you": 美国人对说“我爱你”特别谨慎

但是，日常生活中，美国人却常把love挂在嘴边

比如吃汉堡：

McDonald's slogan "I'm lovin' it": 麦当劳的广告语“我就喜欢”

口语里，“love”还能怎么用?

I loved that movie. It was the best! 我太喜欢那部电影了，真好看!

Did you see the show? 你看那个节目了吗?

Yes, I totally love it! 看了，太喜欢了!

How is the food? 菜好吃吗?

I love it! Just love it! 好吃!我太喜欢了!

上面这些日常情况，中文基本都会用“喜欢”表达情绪;可是英语却要用“love".

如果用“I like it", 反而容易造成误解!

Why?为什么?

"I like it" or "I like it very much" doesn't sound very sincere or enthusiastic: 我喜欢、我非常喜欢在英语里听起来反而有点不真诚、没什么热情

总之：

表达你非常喜欢一个事物，大家记得用love!

家人之间的love

"Love" is also used a lot between family members, parents and kids: love在亲人、父母、孩子之间也很常用

I don't think I've ever said "我爱你" to my parents: 我好像从来没对我父母说过“我爱你”

It feels so awkward. I don't know how to say it: 感觉很尴尬，不知怎么开口

My parents don't really say it to me either: 我爸爸妈妈好像也不会跟我说

But I say "mommy loves you" to my sons all the time: 但是，我倒常用英语跟孩子说“mommy loves you"

I don't really say it in Chinese though, feels really awkward: 但是我不太用中文跟他们说“妈妈爱你”，也觉得很尴尬

Maybe when it's not your mother tongue, it's easier to say: 有可能不是自己的母语，反而更容易说

不过有些美国人也觉得对家人说"I love you"有点儿别扭

WASPs don't say it as much: 英国血统的美国人好像没那么常说“I love you"

WASP (White Anglo Saxon Protestant): 新教徒的盎格鲁撒克逊裔美国人

They are more reserved: 他们比较含蓄

Sons don't say "I love you" as much as daughters: 还有儿子，也不像女儿那么愿意对父母说"I love you"

Girls, even grown-up girls say it all the time to their parents: 女儿，就算是成年了，也常跟父母说“I love you"

你误解了love和hate的含义

说完love, 说hate

中文“恨”是个特别强烈的字，日常很少用。

但是英语的hate口语却很常用。

基本，刚才所有用love的例子，也可以很自然地用hate。

比如：

I hated that movie. It was so bad. 那部电影太难看了，我一点儿都不喜欢。

It has been raining non-stop. I hate this weather! 天天下雨，天气太讨厌了!

Traffic is so bad. I hate it! 路真堵，烦死了!

所以，hate在口语里，更多是“讨厌”的意思，而不是恨。

To hate a person?

用在人身上呢?

Be careful with using "hate" on people: 用在人身上，要特别谨慎

You can use it jokingly with your friends: 也许跟很好的朋友，可以用调侃的语气

比如：

A: My husband is taking me on a trip to Italy! 我老公要带我去意大利玩儿

B: Oh, I hate you! 哦，我恨你!羡慕、嫉妒、恨

But in general, hate is a very strong word if you use it on people: 不过总的来说，hate用在人身上，语气是很强的

之前说到hate在口语里有“讨厌”的意思，那“真讨厌!”英语怎么说?

I hate it when you ...: 英语通常会说那个具体的行为

But it's still pretty direct and strong: 不过语气还是挺直接、强烈的

When a Chinese girl says "你真讨厌"，it's mostly being coquettish: 中国女生说“你真讨厌”，经常是在撒娇

Cutesy: 嗲、撒娇

A love hate relationship | 爱恨交织

A love hate relationship with someone or something: 又爱又恨、爱恨交加的关系

怎么用?

I have a love hate relationship with my phone: 我对手机真是又爱又恨

A love hate relationship with your work/your boss: 对于自己的工作、对于自己的老板，大概也有些爱恨交织的情绪

Many foreigners have a love hate relationship with China: 很多外国人，对中国也是爱恨交织

*大家注意不是A love and hate relationship;

而是A love hate relationship*

Love hate的另一个高段位用法

Love to hate: 又爱又恨、欲罢不能

Especially true with celebrities: 大众看明星，经常都有这种情绪

Kim Kardashian is someone many Americans love to hate: 比如卡戴珊，美国人就是love to hate

They hate her for being so high-profile, but they love to read news about her: 很多人讨厌她高调、作秀，但同时又特别爱看她的八卦新闻

They can't get enough of her: 欲罢不能

Is there a Chinese celebrity who people love to hate? 中国有这样的明星吗?