英语美文朗读 第307期 Dont Let These 5 Kinds of People in Your Life
给我看看你的朋友，我很快就会告诉你你是谁，你会过什么样的生活。选择什么样的朋友相伴，将直接决定你的生命质量。
If you hang around with only angry and negative people… your life will be full of anger and negativity. If you surround yourself with kind, compassionate and positive people, your life will have more kindness, and positive energy. Who you surround yourself with is crucial, and sometimes it is important you reflect on those you are spending the most time with and asking yourself, do I really want these people in my life?
如果你只和愤怒、消极的人在一起，你的生活将充满愤怒和消极。如果你身边有善良、有同情心和积极的人，你的生活中将有更多的善良和正能量。你身边的人是至关重要的，有时候，你必须要反省，那些在你身边时间最长的朋友，我真的想要这些人在我的生命里吗？
If you have any of these people in your life, it might be time to rethink how much time you spend with them, if any at all. It might not be easy to limit or end all interaction with these people, if they are friends, or family… but if they are not making your life, or theirs better by you spending time together, maybe it’s time for both of you to move on.
如果你的生活中有下面这样的人，也许是时候重新考虑，你到底应该花在他们身上多少时。如果他们是朋友或家人，减少与他们相处的时间可能并不容易……但是如果你们双方在一起相处，生活都没有变得更好，是时候向前迈进一步了。
Number 1: Dishonest People
Number 2: Controlling People
Number 3: Angry, Bitter and Negative People (Victim Mentality)
Number 4: Takers (Never Givers)
Number 5: Those Who Have No Desire To Grow
第一：不诚实的人
第二：控制狂
第三：愤怒、痛苦和消极的人（受害者心态）
第四：接受者（从不给予）
第五：那些不想成长的人
Let’s talk a little more about each personality so you can spot them, and if needed, limit your time, or end your time with them.
让我们多谈谈每个人的性格，这样你就能发现他们，如果需要的话，限制你们相处的时间，或者根本不花时间在他们身上。
【Number 1: Dishonest People】
TRUST is a major human need for any relationship. Friendships, romantic relationships, family members – if you can’t trust them, limit your time with them. If they lie repeatedly or rarely give you the full story – this is a clear sign they don’t respect you. Address the problem with the person, if you can, and if the situation doesn’t change move on and move forward. Don’t respond with hate, or revenge in mind, just move on, take the high road, and let them play out their dishonesty elsewhere. Remember, if something feels off, it is most likely off.
在人类的任何关系中，信任都是最基本的需求。友谊，浪漫的关系，家庭成员——如果你不能信任他们，就减少与他们在一起的时间。如果他们反复说谎或很少给你完整的故事——这是一个明显的迹象，他们不尊重你。如果可以的话，直接跟他们沟通这个问题，如果情况没有改变，那么你该向前迈一步了。不要以仇恨或报复来回应，只要继续前进，走上正道，不让他们的不诚信干扰到你。记住，如果有什么东西感觉不对劲，那么很可能它就是有问题。
【Number 2: Controlling People】
Freedom is a basic human need we all share, and when we feel like another human is controlling us, or trying to, it is very uncomfortable and unnatural. When you limit, or end time with these kind of people, it will feel like a weight has been lifted of your back. That heavy burden you carry around being under someone else’s command is life-draining. Follow your heart, you know those who are right for you.
自由是人类共同的基本需要，当我们觉得别人在控制我们，或试图控制我们时，会感觉非常不舒服，不自然。当你减少或结束与这些人在一起的时间时，你会感觉如释重负。别人的控制会逐渐耗尽你的生命。跟着你的心走，你知道哪些朋友才是最适合你的。
【Number 3: Angry, Bitter and Negative People】
It goes without saying that your life will be better without angry, bitter and negative people in it, but you must be able to spot these people, sometimes their behaviour is more subtle than you might think. Constantly judging others, always blaming and living in the victim role, regularly getting into arguments with others… complaining, always finding the negative aspects of any situation… these kind of behaviours are not good for you, if you want to live a true happy, fulfilled life. Find those who see the positive in each situation, who respond with compassion, who can calm and light up any room. Your life will be much better for it.
毫无疑问，如果没有愤怒、痛苦和消极的人，你的生活会更好，但你必须能够发现这些人，有时他们的行为比你想象的要微妙。不断地评判他人，总是责怪别人，扮演受害者的角色，经常与他人争吵……不断抱怨，总是发现消极的一面……这些行为对你都不好，如果你想过一种真正快乐、充实的生活。找到那些在每一种情况下都看到积极一面的人，他们总是充满同情，他们可以让生活充满光明。找到这样的人，你的生活会更好。
【Number 4: Takers, Never Givers】
It’s pretty self explanatory, but it’s those who always EXPECT things to be given to them, to be done FOR them, but who rarely ever offer the same level of giving in return. It’s the person who calls you when they need you, but doesn’t answer when you need them. The one who will spend time with you when it suits them, but not when it doesn’t. It’s almost like they feel superior, or above you. Well, they are not. We are all equal, and if you find yourself in constant interaction with a taker – end that relationship and notice how good it feels.
这是很不言自明的，有些人总是希望得到别人的东西，总要别人为他们做事，但他们很少给与相应的回报。当他们需要你的时候打电话给你，但当你需要他们的时候却不接。他们觉得有利可图时会跟你一块玩，反之就离开了。好像他们自己高人一等，但其实，他们并不高明。我们都是平等的，如果你发现自己和这样的朋友相处——立刻结束这种关系，你就会发现生活真美好。
【Number 5: Those Who Have No Desire To Grow】
If you are someone who is on a constant, never ending search for GROWTH and self development… spending time with those who aren’t can be very draining. You may not need to end your time with these people, they may be family, or life long friends…but to expect your greatest life, when you surround yourself with people who have zero intention of getting better, EVER – that’s insanity.
如果你是一个不断追求成长和自我发展的人……花时间和那些不追求自我成长的人在一起，可能会让你筋疲力尽。你可能没法完全与他们断开联系，他们可能是家人，或者是终身的朋友……但是当你和那些不思进取的人待在一块，不要指望自己的生命有什么起色。
At the end of the day YOU CHOOSE who you spend time with, and you choose who you spend the most time with. You don’t have to be rude, or abrupt or disrespectful when limiting or ending time you spend with people – you don’t even have to explain WHY. Just do what feels right for you, because that, is usually what is right for everyone involved.
最终，你选择与谁共度时光，选择与谁共度时光最多。想要缩短或者停止与他人相处的时间时，你不必粗鲁、唐突或无礼——你甚至不必解释原因。你只需要相信自己的直觉，因为大多数情况，自己的直觉是最正确的。
