英语美文朗读 第373期 The Secret Of Happiness(下)
4.你必须找到你行动的深层原因
A better way of saying this is you must choose what is motivating you. Is it something superficial and external or something deeper and more meaningful?
一个更好的说法是你必须选择是什么在激励你。是很肤浅和表面的动机，还是一些更内在，更有意义的动机？
Being motivated by money for the sake of money leads to unstable emotional regulation and a lot of obnoxious and superficial behavior. Being motivated by money so that one can provide a good life for their family and children is a much sturdier foundation to work with. That deeper purpose will motivate one through the stress and fear and inevitable complications that a more superficial motivation would not.
单纯为了赚钱而赚钱会导致不稳定的情感控制和很多令人反感的，肤浅的行为。为了给家挺和孩子提供更好的生活而赚钱是一个更坚定的基础。这种更深层的目的可以激励一个人跨越压力，恐惧和不可避免的难题，但是一个肤浅的动机不行。
Being motivated by the approval of others leads to needy and unattractive behavior. Being motivated by the approval of others because you're an artist and you would want to construct art that moves and inspires people in new and powerful ways is far more sustainable and noble. You'll be able to work through disapproval, embarrassments and the occasional disaster.
为了获得他人的肯定而行动会导致你做出讨好性和令人讨厌的行为。为了获得他人的肯定，因为你是个艺术家，你希望创作出可以以一种新的，强有力的方式去感动和启发别人的艺术而获得肯定是更持久和高尚的动力。你可以跨越否定，窘迫和偶然的灾难。
How does one find their deeper purpose? Well, it's not easy. But then again, robust and resilient life-long happiness isn't easy either. But here's a hint: it is something to do with growth and contribution. Growth means finding a way to make yourself a better person. Contribution means finding a way to make other people better. Look for ways that can integrate those into your motivations.
人们如何找到他们更深层的目的？是的，这并不容易。但是话说回来，坚定，坚韧和一生的幸福也不是容易得到的。但这有一个提示：幸福是与成长和奉献有关的。成长意味着是你变成一个更优秀的人。奉献意味着找到一种方式使别人更优秀。想办法把他们融合进你的动力。
There's nothing wrong with sex, money and rock and roll (hey, preaching to the choir here). But the sex needs to be motivated by something deeper than sex, the money needs to be motivated by a value more sustainable than simply money, and the rock and roll needs to just rock. Find a way to slide growth and/or contribution under them，and bam，you get the best of both worlds.
性，金钱和摇滚乐没有任何错（嘿，我在这向合唱团宣传）。但是性需要有比性更深层的动力去追求，赚钱需要因为获得比钱更长久的价值而去赚钱，而摇滚乐只需要摇滚。找到一种方式把成长和/或奉献作为动力的基础，然后，嘭，你能得到更好的世界。
5. YOU MUST BE WILLING TO FAIL AND BE EMBARRASSED
5.你必须不害怕失败和遭受窘迫
The beautiful thing about humanity is the diversity of life values. When you live out your values and let them motivate your actions and behaviors, you will inevitably clash with those whose values contradict your own. These people will not like you. They will leave nasty anonymous comments on the internet and make inappropriate remarks about your mother. Anything you do that's important will inevitably be accompanied by those who wish for you to fail. Not necessarily because they're bad people, but most likely because their values differ from yours.
人类的一个美好的地方在于价值观的多样性。当你建立了你的价值观，并让之驱动你的行动时，你会不可避免和与和你秉持不同价值观的人产生冲突。这些人会不喜欢你。他们会在网上留下恶劣的匿名评论并咒骂你的母亲。你在做任何重要的事时，总会不可避免地有希望你失败的人伴随着你。并不一定是因为他们是坏人，只是很大可能因为他们的价值观不同于你。
"Haters gonna hate."
“仇恨者只会仇恨。”
In any venture, failure is required to make progress. And progress, by definition, is what drives happiness - the progress of ourselves, the progress of others, the progress of our values and what we care about. Without failure there is no progress and without progress there is no happiness.
在任何冒险里，失败对于进步是必要的。而进步，按照定义来说，可以带来幸福 - 我们自身的进步，他人的进步，我们价值观的进步和我们关心的东西的进步。如果没有失败，就没有进步。而没有进步，就没有幸福。
The most important skill in life is not how to avoid getting knocked down, but rather learning how to stand back up. Haters gonna hate.
生活中最重要的技能不是如何避免被打倒，而是学习如何站起来。仇恨者只会仇恨。
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