英语美文朗读 第384期 The importance of silence

It seems most times the problem we have with ourselves as humans is the problem of saying what is not yet ready to be put forth. We all seem to have this problem, and most times there are countless reasons why we do this. To make people know that we are somebody who also has his own worth.

 

似乎，大多数时候，我们人类最大的问题，就是还没想清楚，就把话说出口。好像我们每个人都有这个问题，通常来说，我们这样做，有很多原因。我们想让别人知道我们的价值。

 

We try to make ourselves look big, try to talk others down, and sometimes gain some respect aggressively, some godlike reverence to ourselves.

我们想让自己看起来很棒，我们想说服别人，我们想强迫别人尊重我们、崇拜我们。

 

We're ready to say everything that can be said to have a stand on a position that is of worth, and make people see us as important too. And in the process, we say more than we actually should.

只要有机会说话，我们就会说话，表明自己的正确态度，让别人觉得我们很重要。在这个过程中，我们说得太多了。

 

Have you ever thought of the importance of silence? Have you ever thought of the reason why you have been given two lips and a brain to think? The main reason is for you to know by reasoning the right time to talk and the right time not to, to be able to envisage when our words are needed to be heard, and when we are to be silent, even when the situation and circumstances around us seemingly want us to speak out.

你有没有想过沉默的重要性？你有没有想过，为什么你有两片嘴唇，和一个用来思考的大脑？因为，你需要知道，什么时候该说话，什么时候不该说话，认真看待我们说的话，明白什么时候该说话，什么时候该保持沉默，就算眼前的情况需要你说话，你也要保持沉默。

 

Yes, life can be a bit complicated and demanding. It can throw you off balance and give you no reason to be logical. However, since you have no control over many situations, you do have control over your own life. Look at yourself more than you look and meditate on others. Saying too much is providing an arsenal for you to get hurt with your words. being mysterious, on the other hand, makes people go the extra mile to be your friend. You don't want to give them any ammunition to attack. Be still in your conversations and thoughts, and keep the people around you guessing, keep them wondering and looking over their shoulder for you.

没错，生活很复杂，很让人费心。它能让你失去平衡，让你失去理智，没有逻辑。然而，虽然你无法控制很多情况，但是你能把握好自己的生活。多反省自己，不要总盯着别人看，想象别人的生活。说得太多，就会让你被自己所说的话伤害。但是，如果你保持沉默，就可以让别人主动接近你，与你交朋友。你肯定不想让他们拥有伤害你的武器，所以，无论是跟别人说话时，还是独自思考时，都要稳定自己的心绪，让你周围的人对你感到好奇，让他们想去了解你，主动跟你接触。

 

They will yell at you. you do nothing. You say nothing. They will come calling on you when you do not want. Stay calm. Say nothing. You aren't doing them a favor. You're doing yourself a favor. Hearing nothing from you will give them much to think about when they want to approach you. You become that guy or that girl that makes them feel unsure of themselves. Your silence disrupts their confidence. It breaks their flow of thought regarding you. They just don't know how to get to you anymore. You don't give them any means or a reason to.

他们会朝你叫喊，你无动于衷，你保持沉默。就算你不想，他们也会来招惹你。你要保持冷静，保持沉默。你这样做，不是为了他们，而是为了你自己。如果他们得不到你的回应，在想接近你的时候，他们就会自己去思考。你会让他们感到不确定，你的沉默会扰乱他们的自信，让他们不再一直对你进行猜测。他们根本不知道怎样才能了解你，你完全不给他们任何机会。

 

It's like a man who goes to a party with his friends and doesn't dance. No one is going to laugh at his dance moves. Why? Because he hasn't danced. They will keep coming up with ways to define you just because you never provided them any. Instead of you trying to give reasons as to why you're better and why they're wrong, why not just keep quiet and steadily work toward your dream, bearing in mind that you have a goal better than the circumstances around you. We've heard the popular expression; silence is the best response to a fool. The people around you do not necessarily need to be proven as fools, because the whole essence of going down your particular path is for your own sake.

一个人和朋友们一起参加派对，他不跳舞，就没人会嘲笑他的舞步。为什么？因为他根本就没跳舞。别人一直议论你，是因为你给了他们这样的机会。与其去证明自己比他们优秀，证明他们是错的，还不如保持沉默，持续不断地为你的梦想努力。记住，你的目标很远大，周围这些人不配让你分心。我们都听过一句很有名的话，沉默，是对傻子最好的回应。你也没必要证明自己周围的人都是傻子，因为，走自己的路，是为了自己，跟他们没关系。

 

Why don't you keep them confused by your silence? Keep them entirely thinking about you while you stay focused on your goals? Nobody is you, and that's what makes the difference. The moment you start bearing in mind nobody knows anything about you is the moment you begin to understand that talking to convince people about who you are doesn't really work. You don't need to tell them who you are. Let them find out. Don't give them exactly what they need to say about you. Let them play the guessing game. You do not necessarily need to respond to anything they say.

保持沉默，让他们感到困惑吧，何乐不为呢？让他们一直对你感到好奇，与此同时，你却在专注于实现自己的梦想。你是最独特的，这非常重要。只要你记住，没有人真正了解你，那么你就会明白，想办法说服别人，是没有用的。你不需要告诉他们，你是谁。让他们自己发现，你是谁。不要让他们有机会谈论你，让他们自己去猜吧。无论他们说了什么，你都没必要做出回应。

 

If they intend to draw out some negative action from you, just leave them in silence and let your actions do the talking. Smile on and confuse them with your choice of saying nothing. All you're required to do is listen. Listen and let them seek your voice. Let them find it hard to figure you out. What's more fun and giving people virtually nothing revealing about you, while you live your life to the fullest?

如果他们想做什么伤害你的事，你也不要管他们，用你的行动证明一切。保持微笑，保持沉默，这会让他们摸不着头脑。你要做的，就是仔细聆听。仔细聆听，让他们找寻你的声音，让他们觉得你是个捉摸不透的人。不要给别人任何了解你的机会，活出你自己的精彩，这就是最有趣的事情。