恋爱物语6招教你迅速洞察伪善的朋友
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If you have a friend who sometimes acts more like an enemy, you may have a frenemy on your hands. These guidelines will help you sort it out.
You Will NeedSelf-awareness
Honest appraisal
Honest appraisal
Step 1: Gauge their reactions 观察“朋友”的反映
Notice how they react when you have good news. Do they seem genuinely happy for you, or do they respond with barbed comments and backhanded compliments?
Notice how they react when you have good news. Do they seem genuinely happy for you, or do they respond with barbed comments and backhanded compliments?
Step 2: Assess their supportiveness 评定“朋友”的支持度
Assess their supportiveness. Do they sabotage your self-improvement efforts — perhaps even egg you on to be self-destructive? A true friend has your best interests at heart.
Assess their supportiveness. Do they sabotage your self-improvement efforts — perhaps even egg you on to be self-destructive? A true friend has your best interests at heart.
Step 3: Misery loves company 落井下石的“朋友"
Ask yourself if your misery attracts their company. Frenemies like you best when you’re at your worst.
Ask yourself if your misery attracts their company. Frenemies like you best when you’re at your worst.
Step 4: Note how you feel around them 体会和“朋友”在一起的感受
Note how you feel after you’ve spent time with them: Good friends are uplifting; frenemies leave you feeling annoyed with them or bad about yourself. Or both.
Note how you feel after you’ve spent time with them: Good friends are uplifting; frenemies leave you feeling annoyed with them or bad about yourself. Or both.
If you both cancel plans more than you keep them, you might be frenemies.
Step 5: Note how you behave around them 观察和“朋友”在一起的行为
Note how you behave around them. Do they bring out the best or worst in you? Frenemies do the latter.
Note how you behave around them. Do they bring out the best or worst in you? Frenemies do the latter.
Step 6: Examine your own conscience 扪心自问
Examine your own conscience. Do any of the preceding bad behaviors apply to the way you treat any of your pals? If so, my friend, you yourself could be a frenemy!
Examine your own conscience. Do any of the preceding bad behaviors apply to the way you treat any of your pals? If so, my friend, you yourself could be a frenemy!
The word “frenemy,” which originated in 1977, was added to the Merriam-Webster dictionary in 2009.
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gauge
vt.1.计量, 度量
A thermometer gauges the temperature.
温度计可测量温度。
2.估计, 判断
It's difficult to gauge one's character.
要判断一个人的品格是很困难的。
Can you gauge what her reaction is likely to be?
你能揣测她的反应可能是什么吗?
A thermometer gauges the temperature.
温度计可测量温度。
2.估计, 判断
It's difficult to gauge one's character.
要判断一个人的品格是很困难的。
Can you gauge what her reaction is likely to be?
你能揣测她的反应可能是什么吗?
sabotage
n.1.（为防止敌方利用或为表示抗议而进行的）阴谋破坏，蓄意破坏
The fire at the factory was caused by sabotage.
那家工厂的火灾是有人蓄意破坏引起的。
vt.1.阴谋破坏(某事物)
They tried to sabotage my birthday party.
他们企图破坏我的生日晚会。
The fire at the factory was caused by sabotage.
那家工厂的火灾是有人蓄意破坏引起的。
vt.1.阴谋破坏(某事物)
They tried to sabotage my birthday party.
他们企图破坏我的生日晚会。
misery
n.1.痛苦, 苦恼, 苦难
The family lived in misery for several years.
这家人过了几年的痛苦生活。
2.痛苦的事, 不幸
I'm suffering the miseries of unemployment.
我正为失业而痛苦。
3.常发牢骚的人
You old misery!
你这个爱抱怨的老家伙！
4.穷困；悲惨的生活
The family lived in misery for several years.
这家人过了几年的痛苦生活。
2.痛苦的事, 不幸
I'm suffering the miseries of unemployment.
我正为失业而痛苦。
3.常发牢骚的人
You old misery!
你这个爱抱怨的老家伙！
4.穷困；悲惨的生活
conscience
n.1.良心
I had a guilty conscience about not telling her the truth.
我因为没有告诉她事实真相而感到内疚。
After he had committed the crime, his conscience was troubled.
他犯罪后, 良心上感到很不安。
2.内疚；愧疚
3.凭良心
spot
vt.1.看出, 认出
I spotted him in the crowd.
我在人群中认出了他。
How did you spot those fifties were counterfeited?
你怎样察觉出那些50元面值的纸币是伪造的?
2.注意到；发现
I had a guilty conscience about not telling her the truth.
我因为没有告诉她事实真相而感到内疚。
After he had committed the crime, his conscience was troubled.
他犯罪后, 良心上感到很不安。
2.内疚；愧疚
3.凭良心
spot
vt.1.看出, 认出
I spotted him in the crowd.
我在人群中认出了他。
How did you spot those fifties were counterfeited?
你怎样察觉出那些50元面值的纸币是伪造的?
2.注意到；发现
