休闲对话：搞定女孩的芳心

杨: Hey, guy, what are you thinking about? You sit here for one hour and doing nothing.

嘿，伙计，你在想什么? 你坐在这儿一个小时了，什么也没干。

李: Well, I met a girl in a party last week, she is so charming and I think I have fallen in love with her. But how can I get her?

我上周在聚会上遇见了一个女孩，她很有魅力，我认为我已经爱上她了。但是我怎样才能得到她的心呢?

杨: Ha-ha, you ask the right people. I am an expert in treating girls. There are as many different ways to get a girl as there are girls, so let's go over some basic rules that'll win over any girl worth getting.

哈哈，你问对人了。我是对付女孩的专家。世上有多少妞儿，咱就有多少让她们喜欢咱的招儿。我们先来理一理一些基本思路，然后你就能战无不胜，想泡谁泡谁了~。

李: Really? Please go ahead.

真的吗?请说下去。

杨: First ask her out. Invite her to go somewhere or do something with you--make sure it's something that you're both interested in. If you want, show her your world. Bring her somewhere that you feel comfortable and preferably, where you have or do something that you're proud of. Or, express interest in seeing her world. Is she a musician? Ask if you can see her perform. Is she a mathematician? Ask to read her report or thesis. Or, just go out for lunch or a cup of coffee and get to know her better

首先是约她出来。约她一起去什么地方，或者约她和你一起做些事——确保你俩对此都有兴趣。如果你想的话，向她展示你的世界。带她去个你觉着舒服并且爱去的地方，讲给她在那里你曾做过或者还在经常做的你引以为豪的事。或者，你让她知道你对她的世界感兴趣。比方说她是个音乐家，那么你可以问她许不许你去看她的演出。如果她是搞数学的，向她要她的研究报告和理论读读。或者，简单的，你只需要请她吃个晚餐喝杯咖啡什么的，这样你也能了解她多一点。

李: Ok, next?

好的，然后呢?

杨: Then flirt. When you see or meet a girl you like, make brief eye contact. Smile. Strike up a casual conversation. Most importantly, relax. Don't think of her as the girl of your dreams; don't worry about what will happen if you make a bad joke, or you've got something stuck to your teeth. Enjoy interacting with this attractive, friendly girl whose path crossed yours. Live in the moment.

然后是巧妙地调情。遇着你喜欢的女孩时，蜻蜓点水一般和她来短暂的眼神接触。保持微笑。主动造一个轻松随便的对话。对了，最重要一点是保持别紧张。别把她当成你的梦中女神;别去想讲了笑话讲冷了会怎样;哪怕牙缝里赛东东了也不要紧。重要的是享受和她，这个与你生命相交而又魅力非凡的她，你来我往两相交流的过程。想太多没用，活在当下才是王道。

李: How can I get closer?

怎么才能更靠近她呢?

杨: Well, there are several ways to touch a girl without being sleazy. Hold her coat while she puts it on. Offer her your hand when she's stepping on an uneven surface. Hold out your elbow so she can link arms with you as you walk together. Hold out your hand so you can lead her through a crowd. Rub her hands when they're cold. These are all polite ways to get a little closer without being creepy. Still, if you see any signs of discomfort, stop! Otherwise, she'll probably enjoy the affection.

我们有很多法子能 正大光明毫不猥琐的碰一个女孩。她穿衣服时，为她擎着外套;在她走颠簸路时，伸出你绅士的手;一起走时，为她留一个臂弯，这样她才好挽着你。还有，还有，你能勇敢的牵着她在人群中开路，你能冷天帮她搓手。这些都能让你俩走得更近，却不会惹她生厌。当然了，她要是太扭捏不情愿，你还是住手为妙。如果她表现ok，她可能正得意着你的恭维。

李: Ok, I will call Jane and invite her for some coffee.

好的，我会打电话给Jane，邀请她喝咖啡。

杨: Jane? That Jane with sweet smile? Wait! She is mine.

Jane?那个笑起来很甜的Jane?等等!她是我的。