用什么方法可以尽快戒掉坏习惯
每个人都有坏习惯，什么方法可以有效戒掉坏习惯呢
来听今天的讲解:
A:You've talked a lot about things we should do,but what about stopping doing things or breaking bad habits?
你之前提到过很多我们应该做的事情,那有什么是我们应该停止做的事或是有哪些应该改掉的坏习惯?
A:That's the hardest thing, right?What's your advice for giving up sugar or alcohol or obsessive behavior,things like that?
这是最难的,是吧?你对戒掉糖、戒酒或戒掉上瘾行为有哪些建议?
B:Well, actually,I am not suggesting that people fight with themselves,and they avoid or break anything,
实际上,我不建议人们和自己斗争或是避免或戒掉任何事,
B:because that would constitute violence against yourself.
因为这是针对自身的暴力行为。
B:I amastudent of Marshall Rosenberg,who developed a nonviolentcommunication system.
我是马歇尔·罗森伯格的学生,他开发了一种非暴力沟通系统。
B:Instead of taking away the bad,you add something good.You find exciting, fun,new habits that will naturally substitute.
不要去掉坏事物,而是要增加好事物。你会发现人激动又有趣的新习惯会自然而然地取代坏习惯。
A:Okay,so for example, let's say you watch too much TV,or youre addicted to your smartphone.
好,比如,看电视时间太长,或是对智能手机上瘾。
A:You would try to maybe play outside or do something like that.
你要尽量去外面玩或是做类似于出去玩的事情。
B:Well,you can develop a lot of new habits and see what works for you.
你可以发展许多新习惯,看看哪些习惯适合你。
B:One of the things that I discovered for myself is that willpower is a very finite resource.
我的其中一个发现是,意志力是极为有限的资源。
A:We don't have infinite amounts of will power,so we need to use it very
sparingly on short distances.It's not for marathons.
我们没有无限的意志力,因此我们要在短距离中谨慎使用。那不适用于马拉松。
B:What I suggest, when you're establishing a new habit that you feel that is the right habit for you,
我的建议是,当你建立一个新习惯并认为这个习惯适合你时,
A:you need touse a little bit of willpower to repeat it enough times.
你要用一些意志力重复足够多次。
B:Usually magic number is 21days.
一般来说,这需要21天。
A:Really?21 days,why 21?
真的吗?21天,为什么是21天?
B:I have no idea,but this number keeps popping up from different traditions in
East and West and alsopsychology.
我也不清楚,不过这个数字在东西方的不同传统以及心理学中反复出现。
A:I saw it in my own practice that it works.
我自己实践过,这很有用。
来听今天的讲解:
A:You've talked a lot about things we should do,but what about stopping doing things or breaking bad habits?
你之前提到过很多我们应该做的事情,那有什么是我们应该停止做的事或是有哪些应该改掉的坏习惯?
A:That's the hardest thing, right?What's your advice for giving up sugar or alcohol or obsessive behavior,things like that?
这是最难的,是吧?你对戒掉糖、戒酒或戒掉上瘾行为有哪些建议?
B:Well, actually,I am not suggesting that people fight with themselves,and they avoid or break anything,
实际上,我不建议人们和自己斗争或是避免或戒掉任何事,
B:because that would constitute violence against yourself.
因为这是针对自身的暴力行为。
B:I amastudent of Marshall Rosenberg,who developed a nonviolentcommunication system.
我是马歇尔·罗森伯格的学生,他开发了一种非暴力沟通系统。
B:Instead of taking away the bad,you add something good.You find exciting, fun,new habits that will naturally substitute.
不要去掉坏事物,而是要增加好事物。你会发现人激动又有趣的新习惯会自然而然地取代坏习惯。
A:Okay,so for example, let's say you watch too much TV,or youre addicted to your smartphone.
好,比如,看电视时间太长,或是对智能手机上瘾。
A:You would try to maybe play outside or do something like that.
你要尽量去外面玩或是做类似于出去玩的事情。
B:Well,you can develop a lot of new habits and see what works for you.
你可以发展许多新习惯,看看哪些习惯适合你。
B:One of the things that I discovered for myself is that willpower is a very finite resource.
我的其中一个发现是,意志力是极为有限的资源。
A:We don't have infinite amounts of will power,so we need to use it very
sparingly on short distances.It's not for marathons.
我们没有无限的意志力,因此我们要在短距离中谨慎使用。那不适用于马拉松。
B:What I suggest, when you're establishing a new habit that you feel that is the right habit for you,
我的建议是,当你建立一个新习惯并认为这个习惯适合你时,
A:you need touse a little bit of willpower to repeat it enough times.
你要用一些意志力重复足够多次。
B:Usually magic number is 21days.
一般来说,这需要21天。
A:Really?21 days,why 21?
真的吗?21天,为什么是21天?
B:I have no idea,but this number keeps popping up from different traditions in
East and West and alsopsychology.
我也不清楚,不过这个数字在东西方的不同传统以及心理学中反复出现。
A:I saw it in my own practice that it works.
我自己实践过,这很有用。
