英语专业晨读美文文化篇:如何避免尴尬谈话(美音)

[ti:] [ar:] [al:] [by:] [00:03.88]How to Have Less Awkward Conversation [00:08.01]What is assuming rapport? [00:11.70]Basically, instead of going into a conversation [00:15.42]or meeting nervously and thinking “how will this go?” [00:18.50]you take different approach. [00:20.54]You assume that you and the person will establish a good connection. [00:24.78]How do you do that? You simply pretend [00:27.40]that you are meeting one of your best friends. [00:30.13]Then you start the interaction in that frame of mind [00:33.23]instead of the nervous one. [00:35.20]I have found that this advice is surprisingly useful [00:38.13]and easy to implement. [00:39.76]This also helps you and the other people to [00:42.80]set a good frame for the interaction. [00:44.73]A frame is always set in at the start of an interaction. [00:48.25]It might be a nervous and stiff frame, [00:51.06]a formal and let's-get-to-the-point kind of frame [00:54.22]or perhaps a super relaxed one. The thing is that [00:57.61]the frame that is set in the beginning of the conversation [01:00.27]is often one that may stay on for a while. [01:02.69]First impressions last. [01:04.54]If it's a very stiff frame then it may very well continue [01:08.53]to be so until the end. It can be quite difficult to, [01:12.53]for instance, change that frame into a more relaxed one. [01:16.26]Often people—you and the others—adapt to the frame [01:20.61]that is set and interact within it. [01:22.62]Breaking or changing that frame may feel [01:25.35]uncomfortable or a bit weird. And so you and the others [01:28.72]can become reluctant to do so and instead just play along. [01:32.96]When you're with your friend you don't think about [01:36.20]what you should say next or what funny comment [01:38.93]you could pull out of your sleeve. [01:40.19]You just stay in the present moment, moment by moment, [01:43.34]and the conversation flows easily and naturally. [01:46.87]I think this is what some people mean [01:49.38]when they give the often confusing advice [01:51.82]to “just be yourself”. When your friends give you [01:54.90]that advice then they may mean that you should be [01:58.14]“like you are when you are hanging out with us”. [02:00.55]They want to see you bring out your natural [02:03.35]and relaxed self in other interactions. [02:05.80]One final useful thing about assuming rapport is [02:09.65]that you may also start to feel positive feelings [02:12.70]towards this new person, as you do with your friend [02:15.78]when you meet him/her. This is a pretty good starting point [02:19.31]for getting the new person to reciprocate [02:22.00]and for developing a good relationship.

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