限制你获得成功的7种自负现象

　　自信和自负之间有微妙的区别。你完全可以为你的工作感到自豪并要强的知道你很擅长你的工作，但是认为你比其他人都好而且表现的更好又是另一回事。你的自负真的可以成为你的障碍。如果你真的在工作上表现的比其他人更好，为此沾沾自喜只会浪费时间和精力。相反，为了整个团队的成功，你应该努力让其他人更强大。

　　Signs of egotism:

　　自负的迹象

　　Frequent complaining

　　经常抱怨

　　Egotists find any and everything to complain about when things start to go wrong, when they should really be using that energy to right the ship. These people tend to blame others for a team’s shortcomings, rather than look at what they can do better, or what they can do to help others grow.

　　当事情开始出错，他们应该真正地把精力放在正确的地方的时候，自负者却在找寻找一切事情去抱怨。这些人往往把团队的问题归咎于别人,而不是看看有什么他们可以做得更好的,或者他们可以做些什么来帮助别人成长。

　　Frequent arguing

　　频繁争吵

　　Since they tend to place blame on others, egotists are often very confrontational. This leads to rifts between colleagues and coworkers, ultimately impeding any progress for all parties involved.

　　因为他们往往把责任归咎于别人，自负者经常咄咄逼人。这导致了他们和同事、合作人之间的关系产生裂痕，最终阻碍了涉及各方的任何进展。

　　Defensive behavior

　　辩护行为

　　Egotists are quick to blame everyone else, but somehow always have a reason for why they didn’t perform well on a task. When others mess up, they’re incompetent; when they mess up, it’s because they didn’t sleep well, or have a lot on their plate. They often don’t listen to constructive criticism, believing their supervisor is simply out to get them. Obviously, this attitude completely impedes their ability to improve.

　　自负者轻易责备他人，但自己却总有一些理由解释为什么他们工作没有做好。当别人把事情搞糟时，他们就是无能的。当他们把事情搞糟时，就是由于他们没睡好，或者有许多事要处理。他们经常不听有益的批评，认为他们的主管就是要教训他。很明显，这种能力完全阻碍了他们能力的提高。

　　Self-criticism

　　自我评价

　　Behind closed doors, egotists are incredibly critical of themselves. They are afraid of taking risks or stepping out of their comfort zones because they fear being laughed at. This stems from the notion that they actually think anyone else truly cares enough to judge them. Egotists also believe that others think this way simply because that’s how they operate themselves.

　　关起门来，自负者自己评价自己。他们害怕冒险或者离开他们觉得舒服的地方，因为他们害怕被嘲笑。这源于他们认为别人都很想评价他们的观念。自负者还相信别人也是这么认为的，因为他们自己也是这么做的。

　　No apologies

　　从不道歉

　　Why would an egotist apologize? In their eyes, they never do any wrong. This goes back to how they often blame others for their own mistakes or shortcomings, and how they rationalize their own behavior. When someone wrongs them, they’ll hold a grudge until the other party apologizes. When they wrong others, they believe the other party should just let it go.

　　自负者怎么会道歉呢?在他们眼里，他们从不犯错。这可以追溯到为他们自己的错误和缺点他们怎么经常责备别人，怎样自圆其说他们的行为。当别人触怒了他们，他们会记仇直到别人道歉。当他们触怒别人时，他们相信别人不应该计较这件事。

　　Impatience

　　不耐烦

　　Egotists are rather impatient when it takes others a little longer to learn something or complete a task. They think they’re more intelligent and efficient than everyone else in the room, so they get frustrated when someone else takes their time doing something. They don’t take the time to consider other people’s thought processes or abilities. Rather than help others, they simply complain about how long it’s taking them to get a job done.

　　当别人多花了一点儿时间来学习某些事情或者完成一项任务时，自负者会相当不耐烦。他们认为他们比屋内别的每一个人都更聪明，更有效率。他们不会花时间去考虑别人的思维过程或能力。他们只是抱怨完成这份工作花了多长时间，而不是去帮助别人。

　　Passing judgment

　　短暂的判断

　　Obviously, egotists are incredibly judgmental. They don’t consider other people’s background, personal life, or any other factor when analyzing their ability to perform a specific task. When others fail, egotists don’t see them as a work in progress; they simply see them as a failure.

　　很明显，自负者很挑剔。在分析别人执行一项具体工作的能力时，他们不会考虑别人的背景、私人生活，或者任何别的因素。当别人失败时，自负者不会看到别人工作中的进展，只是把他们看作失败者。

　　Ways to overcome egotism

　　克服自负的方法

　　You might not even realize you’re acting in a way that comes of as egotistical. If any of the preceding characteristics apply to you, you should take action in order to become a more compassionate, team-driven individual.

　　你可能甚至没有意识到你的行事方式是自负的。如果你符合前面的任何一个特征，你应该采取行动来成为一个更有同情心，更有团队驱动力的人。

　　Help others instead of putting them down

　　帮助别人而不是说别人坏话

　　Don’t waste time and energy complaining about how terrible others are at their jobs. If you’re so much better than them, it should be easy to help them improve. Share the strategies you’ve used to move forward in life. Your colleagues will most likely appreciate your efforts, and your team will move toward success.

　　不要把时间精力浪费在抱怨别人在工作上多么糟糕上。如果你比他们好得多，那么你很容易帮助他们提升自己。分享你生活中用来前进的方法。你的同事很可能欣赏你的努力，而你的团队也会走向成功。

　　Use criticism wisely

　　明智地使用批评

　　When helping others, point out the things they do well. Although they probably have areas in need of improvement pertaining to their performance, don’t harp on them. Instead, guide them toward growth. Nobody likes a critic, so if you’re going to criticize others, make sure it’s for a positive reason.

　　当帮助别人时，指出他们做得好的事情。尽管他们的工作有需要提高的地方，但不要喋喋不休。相反，指导他们进步。没有人喜欢被批评，所以假如你打算批评别人，确保这是为了一个积极的原因。

　　Only judge yourself

　　只评判自己

　　You should never, ever judge anyone other than yourself. Don’t compare other people’s performance to your own because you have no idea about any other aspect of their life, and have never walked in their shoes. Compare yourself only to the person you were yesterday. If you haven’t made improvements yourself, you have no right to judge anyone else.

　　你应该永远不曾评判别人而是自己。不要拿别人的表现和你自己比较，因为你不知道别人生活中别的任何方面，也不曾设身处地为他们着想。只和昨天的你比较。如果你没有提升自己，你就没权利评判别的任何人。