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生活英语听力文章:建立至关重要的人际关系

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Building Relationships That Last

建立持久的人际关系。

While the Internet now allows us to connect in new ways and stay connected regardless of where we are, the fundamental skills of building relationships remain unchanged.

虽然现在网络提供了忽略距离的保持联系的新方式,但是建立人际关系的基本技能并未改变。

Today’s lesson is an important reminder for all of us that the key to any long-term relationship is making sure that you give at least as much as you get.

今天的课程对我们所有人说都是一个重要的提示,那就是保持长久人际关系的关键是确保你在人际关系中付出的至少和收获的一样多。

The value of relationships

人际关系的价值。

One of the most basic needs of humans is to have meaningful relationships with other people. Relationships connect us to each other in every aspect of our lives.

人类最基本的需求之一就是和他人建立有意义的人际关系。在生活的每一个方面,人际关系让我们和他人连在了一起。

One of the greatest regrets many individuals express at the end of their lives is the lack of time they spent with their spouse, children, and special people. It’s time given to our loved ones and friends that fulfills us and brings meaning to our lives.

很多人在他们生命即将走完时最后悔的一件事是他们陪伴爱人、孩子、其他特别的人的时间太少。现在是该为我们的爱人和给我们的生活带来意义和满足的朋友付出的时候了。

There are other benefits as well. Wholesome, long-term relationships bring happiness and health to our lives. Studies show that people with enriching relationships really do have more happiness and they experience less stress.

还有其他的好处呢。健康的长久的人际关系能给我们的生活带来幸福和健康。研究表明具有丰富关系的人确实有更多的幸福感,有更少的压力。

Long-term relationships require deposits

长久的人际关系需要存款。

Enduring relationships are those that may last 5, 10, 15, or more years. Clearly, not every relationship falls into this category, but if you want to build a long-term relationship—one that feeds and sustains you in the different areas of your life—you will need to be deliberate about the time and attention you give.

长久的人际关系指至少维系了5年,10年,15年的关系。并不是每段人际关系都会这么久,但如果你想建立一段长久的人际关系---一段能在生活的不同方面都满足和支撑你的关系--你需要慎重考虑你所能付出的时间和精力。

For any relationship to last over a long period of time, it must be the kind where you offer value and meet the needs of the other person. I sometimes refer to this as making deposits into the relationship.

对于任一个持续很久的人际关系,他一定属于这种在哪个地方你有价值并能迎合他人的需求。有时我更喜欢把这当成是对人际关系的存款。

I like the way Anthony Robbins explains this concept.

我喜欢Anthony Robbins解释这个概念的方式。

“Some of the biggest challenges in relationships come from the fact that most people enter a relationship in order to get something. They’re trying to find someone who’s going to make them feel good. In reality, the only way a relationship will last is if you see your relationship as a place that you go to give, and not a place that you go to take.”

人际关系里最大的挑战来自于人们都想从中获取东西。他们努力去寻找能让他们感觉舒服的人。现实中,人际关系持久的唯一方式是你把人际关系当做一种给予的渠道,而不是从中得到东西。

You can make deposits to any relationship by starting to do the little things that show your interest and that you truly care. Here are just a few of the 101 things you can do:

你可以从你感兴趣和你真正关心的小事上开始对你的任一个人际关系进行投资。以下仅仅是101个你可以做的事情中的一部分。

Send an email just to say hi without asking for anything.

Call to see how a son or daughter performed in a recent activity.

Send a card or email on a holiday or birthday to tell them you are thinking about them.

Express appreciation through a thank-you note or phone call for something done for you.

Help them in times of need.

Encourage them when starting new things.

Compliment them on the things they do well.

Be a support during times of struggle and grief.

I try my best to make regular deposits into all my relationships. From listening to offering a helping hand when needed, I am intentional about putting more into the relationships I value than I ever plan to take out. Not only does this give me satisfaction from knowing that this is the right thing to do, it feels good and draws me closer them.

发封邮件不为任何事只为打声招呼。打电话看看最近一次活动中儿子或女儿的表现。在节假日或生日时寄张贺卡或发封邮件告诉他们你很想念他们。通过感谢短信或电话向那些为你做了事情的人表达感谢。在他们需要时帮助他们,当他们开始新事情时鼓励他们,当他们在某些事情上做的很好时赞扬他们,在他们挣扎和悲伤时支持他们。我一直尽力对我所有的人际关系进行定期的投资。在他们需要的时候从倾听到提供帮助,我一直有意的去投入更多。这样做不仅让我感到满足,因为我做了正确的事情,而且我很舒服并且让我们靠的更近。

How to nurture your relationships

怎么培养你的人际关系?

The best way to nurture your relationships is to contribute to each of them according to their needs and expectations. Take a few moments to ask yourself these questions:

培养人际关系最好的方式就是根据他们的需要和期望为他们中的每一位做贡献。花点时间问问自己下面这些问题。

What are the specific needs and expectations of my employer, customer, or client?

What are the needs and desires of my spouse or significant other?

What do my friends need in their relationships with me?

To help you put this lesson into perspective, make a note of the five people closest to you. These should be people with whom you have or desire to have a lasting relationship. Include on your list at least one family member, one friend, and at least one person you work for or with whom you do business.

我老板,顾客或者客户的具体需求和期望是什么呢?我爱人或其他重要的人的需求和愿望是什么?我的朋友在这段人际关系里需要什么?为了把这节课更透视化,现在记录5个和你亲近的人。这些人应该是和你有持久关系或你希望有持续关系的人。你列举的这里面至少有一个家庭成员,一个朋友,至少有一个你的老板或商业合作伙伴。

Next, ask yourself, What does ________ (someone’s name) need from a relationship with me and what can I do to provide it?

然后问自己,这些人需要从这段关系中得到什么以及你能为他们做些什么?

Remember that what you decide to deposit into each relationship should depend on that person’s specific needs.

请牢记你决定在任一段人际关系中投资什么应该依赖于这些人具体的需求。

When you start asking what you can do to improve your relationships with others—rather than asking what they can do for you—your relationships will bring you joy and satisfaction and brighten the lives of those you care about.

当你开始询问你做些什么能提高你的人际关系而不是询问他们能为你做些什么时,你的人际关系将给你带来开心和满足并且点亮你关心的人的生活。

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