生活英语听力文章：如何处理正在烦扰你的人
What Are You Doing That Bugs People?
做哪些事会招人烦?
What is the number one thing people do that bugs you? Think about it for a moment. Do you have something in mind?
别人做什么最招你烦?花点时间想想看。想出来了吗?
How do you feel about people who do that? Do you want to shake your head in disgust? Do you want to roll your eyes? Do you want to bite your tongue as you resist saying something? Do you want to blow your horn? How does this affect your impression of them?
你对那样做的人怎么看?是不是想摇头表示鄙视?是不是懒得看?你对他们很无语?你也想大放厥词?这如何影响到你对他的印象?
Not surprisingly, people who lie, are intentionally deceitful, or flaunt arrogance were hot buttons for many who commented. The most common theme that emerged had to with inconsiderate people. Some of the inconsiderate things listed included people who:
毫不奇怪的是，那些说谎的人都是有意欺骗别人，而那些傲慢地自吹自擂的人都是许多人喜欢讨论的热点话题。他们最多的观点是这些人不会体谅人。下面列举了一些不顾别人的行为：
Don’t use their turn signals
Drive too close to the car in front of them
Flick their cigarette butts out the window
Don’t hold the door open
Don’t respond to emails, texts, and calls
Interrupt while someone is talking
Scan their phone or computer for messages during a conversation
Leave their shopping cart in the parking lot rather than returning it
Are late for calls and appointments
Eat or chew gum with their mouth open
The number and nature of these responses prompted today’s lesson that deals with what happens when we encounter someone who does the very thing that bugs us.
不打转向灯;与前面的车距太短;往车窗外扔烟头;过去后就关门;不回邮件，短信和电话;打断别人说话;交谈中查手机短信或邮件;把购物车留在停车场而不归还超市;迟迟不回电话或约会迟到;张开嘴吃东西或嚼口香糖。鉴于回应这些做法的人数和方法，我们这节课就来谈谈当我们遇到那些做事很招人烦的人时，如何处理这种情况。
Even more importantly, what happens when we’re the ones who are bugging people? How does it affect their view of us?
更重要的是，如果别人觉得我们很烦又会怎样呢?这对他们对我们的看法有什么影响?
Why You Should Care
为什么要在乎这个?
In the context of personal and professional development, you need to know one of the worst things you can do is something that annoys or bugs another person.
在人际关系和职业发展环境中，你要知道，你做的最不好的事就是去烦扰别人。
Upon reading this, you may feel one of two ways,
通过这篇文章，你可能会体会到一下两种方式之一：
Why should I care if I’m bugging anybody? I can’t please everybody!
What do I do that bugs people and how does this affect their view of me?
You might have guessed by now that I believe you should care. Here’s why:
我为什么要在乎我是否在打扰别人?我又不能取悦所有人!我做的哪些事会影响别人?别人又会怎么看我呢?我想你现在应该已经猜到了我会说你要在乎，原因如下：
When you have a habit that bothers other people and do nothing about it, you brand yourself as someone who is inconsiderate. Do inconsiderate people win friends, influence people, or get promotions?
Most people don’t even realize that what they’re doing may be bugging others. Quite plainly, this creates a big ugly pimple on their reputation!
Finally, a carefree attitude of “It’s a free country. So what if you don’t like it?” will cause you to end up unloved, unappreciated, unpopular, and unhappy. Remember, it’s a small world.
如果你有烦扰别人的习惯，并且还不愿改，那你在别人眼中就是一个自私自利的人。这样的人能有朋友，能有影响力或者能得到提升吗?大多数人甚至都没意识到他们的所作所为正在烦扰别人。这是很浅显易懂的，这样的人肯定不会得到什么好评!最后，那些怀有“这是个自由的国度，你不喜欢又怎样?”这种不负责任的态度的人是不会招人喜欢、欣赏、欢迎的，也不会幸福的。记住，这个世界很小。
Are You Ready to Learn About Yourself?
准备好了解自己了吗?
The first step toward ridding yourself of habits that others may find distasteful or offensive and preserving your reputation is to learn what you may be doing that bugs other people. The easiest way to do this is to simply ask. It may be awkward or even slightly embarrassing, but it won’t kill you.
想要摆脱那些让人不快的冒犯性习惯并赢得好评，第一步就是要知道你的所作所为会不会影响别人。最简单的方法就是去问别人，这可能有点奇怪甚至会有些尴尬，但还不足以要你的命。
Start with your spouse, your children, or another family member. Ask them for their honesty. And when they do offer to tell you, don’t get defensive. When you’re ready, ask a trusted colleague, supervisor, or someone who reports to you. It takes courage, but I guarantee they’ll respect you for asking, especially when they see you making an effort to change.
就从你的配偶，子女或其他家庭成员开始吧，让他们实话实说。当他们准备好对你说大实话的时候，你就不要再把自己“保护”起来了。当你准备好了，就问一个可靠的同事，上司或下属。这是要勇气的，但我相信他们会尊重你的问话，尤其是当他们看到你在努力改变自己的时候。
If you just can’t bring yourself to ask anyone outright, here are ways to figure it out yourself.
如果你完全不敢问别人，下面这些方法可以让你自助。
Make a conscious effort to watch how others are viewing your actions and reactions.
Notice when others seem to be turned off by something you say or do.
Take time to think about what you can start doing to be more considerate of others.
Today, rather than post what bugs you, I’m asking you to leave a comment about a habit of yours that you want to seriously eliminate. Simple answer this question.
自觉努力地看别人是如何看待你的行动并作出了怎样的反应。留意一下别人是否因为你的所说所为而退避三舍。花点时间想想你能做些什么来更好地为别人着想。今天，我要你留下你最想摆脱的坏习惯而不是那些烦扰你的事。简单回答这个问题。
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