他其实没那么喜欢你 第99期:不要被他的个人问题迷惑

Well, my first point was, I want you to see thedifference between an ex who just misses you andneeds a fix, and a man who realizes he made amistake and seriously wants to get back togetherwith you.

嗯，我的第一个观点：我想要你明白前任(由于思念你想复合)和一个认识到自己犯错了，认真地想和你复合的家伙之间的区别。

But even then, I think you must proceed withcaution and truly question this man's motives.

但是即使明白这个，我认为你一定要小心行事，认真地询问这个男人的动机。

And I definitely want you to stay away from any man that keeps breaking up with you on aregular basis.

我当然想让你远离那些经常和你分手的男人。

Do you think a bad guy can change into a good guy, within a relationship?

你觉得恋爱中的渣男会变成一个不错的男人吗?

I'm loath to say this to someone who might be coming from an unhappy situation and iswanting me to validate it.

我不愿对不幸福的人说这个，不愿说这就是想让我证实的。

I believe that anything is possible.

我觉得任何事都是有可能的。

However, my experience has been that most men do not change, and the ones I've seen changeonly changed when they met new women.

但是，经验告诉我那多数男人都不会改变，只有当他们遇到新认识的女人时，我才发现会做出改变。

What if I only seem to be attracted to guys who are just not that into me?

要是我只对其实没那么喜欢的家伙感冒呢?

Okay, so you have this crazy quirk that somehow makes you able to sniff out the men that aregoing to end up being emotionally unavailable to you.

好吧，你这个疯狂的怪癖在某种程度上有助你找到那种最后对你却没有感情的男人。

We can talk about why that is and what your priorities are that make these men seemattractive to you.

我们会谈谈为什么会这样，是什么优先事项使得这些男人对你有吸引力。

However, what we can most quickly rectify is how long you stick around once you know thathe's just not that into you.

但是，当你知道他其实没那么喜欢你，我们能快速修正的是你还要在他身边坚持多长时间。

A lot of guys, good and bad, are going to fly in your direction. Which ones you pick to investyour time in is where you have your control. Immediately.

很多男人，好的坏的，正朝你这个方向飞来。把你的时间投在哪一种人身上才是你要把控的。马上。

Come on, Greg. Admit it. Sometimes there are real, sincere reasons why a guy who really likesme isn't able to get in a serious relationship with me.

得了吧，格雷格。承认了吧。有时一个真正喜欢我的人却不能和我发展一段认真地关系是有真实、真诚的原因的。

It doesn't have to mean he's just not that into me.

这不一定意味着他其实没那么喜欢你。

Maybe there are men like that out there, maybe there aren't.

或许有这样的男人存在，或许也没有。

This is the only thing you need to remember: Mr. I'm Just Not Up For It is exactly the same guyas Mr. I'm Just Not That Into You.

你只需要记住一件事：“我只是不适合”和“我其实没那么喜欢你”是一样的。

Both guys don't want to be with you.

这两类家伙都不想和你在一起。

One of them may say he can't be with you, but it's still the same result.

有一个人说他不能和你在一起，但都是同样的结果。

He isn't going to be with you.

他不会和你在一起的。

Don't let his personal complications confuse you in the waiting around for him.

不要被他的个人问题迷惑了你，而使你等待他。

He's not able to be really into you. And you deserve better.

他不会真的去喜欢你的。你值得更好的。

You seem to have a fascination with seeing women in their underwear.

你似乎对穿内衣裤的女人很迷恋。

What's that all about?

这该怎么解释。

I don't think there's anything sexier than a woman in her underwear. Sure me!

我认为没有什么比看一个只穿内衣的女人更能引起性欲了。相信我!