《仍是好妈妈》插图鼓励妈妈们抛弃“社会规范”

《仍是好妈妈》插图鼓励妈妈们抛弃“社会规范”

After Jamina Bone gave birth to her second child, she was hit with strong postpartum depression, also known as PPD.

在贾米娜·波恩生下第二个孩子后，她患上了严重的产后抑郁症，也被称为PPD。

"It went from a very educational approach where I was constantly looking up the 'best' way to handle every aspect to being unable to move," Bone told Bored Panda. "I used to plan activities, limit screen time, and make every opportunity a learning moment. I was a Special Educator before having kids so this was everything I wanted and felt equipped to do it all. When PPD hit, it was like wading through mud or even quicksand and still being expected to do all the things."

波恩告诉Bored Panda网站说:“这是一种非常有教育意义的方法，我一直在各个方面寻找解决不能移动的‘最好的’方法。我过去会计划活动，限制看屏幕的时间，让每个机会都成为学习的机会。在我有孩子之前，我是一个特殊的教育工作者，所以这是我想要的一切，我觉得我已经准备好了去做。当产后抑郁症来袭时，就像在泥泞中跋涉，甚至流沙中跋涉，却仍然被期望去做所有的事情。”

She felt broken, unworthy of being a mom for her perfect little beings, and selfish for wanting to get away. "I kept the negative thoughts in my head and often imagined terrifying things from hurting myself to the death of my baby. Being isolated the first several months and lack of sleep were definite factors that played into depression but also not dealing with the sudden death of my mother in law to cancer when I was pregnant. I didn’t realize these were risk factors." The woman didn't realize she was depressed. She just thought she was failing.

她感到心碎了，因为她完美的小生命，她不值得做一个母亲，因为想要离开，她很自私。“我把消极的想法留在脑海里，经常想象一些可怕的事情，以防自己因为孩子的死亡而受到伤害。最初几个月被隔离和睡眠不足是导致抑郁的确定因素，但也与我怀孕时婆婆因癌症突然去世有关。我没有意识到这些都是危险因素。”这个女人没有意识到她很沮丧。她只是觉得自己失败了。

Over time, however, Bone has managed to get out of the rut. Now, the mom-of-two is encouraging "imPERFECT moms" to ditch social norms and embrace their true selves. One of the ways she's doing it is illustrating everyday situations. Through her pictures, Bone reminds people that a woman can have doubts and still be a good mom. She can feel disappointed and still be a good mom. Most importantly, she can be herself, forget the pseudoperfect happy-go-lucky mentality and still be a good mom.

然而，随着时间的推移，波恩已经设法摆脱了常规。现在，这位两个孩子的母亲正在鼓励“不完美的妈妈”抛弃社会规范，拥抱真正的自己。她的方法之一是描述日常情况。通过她的照片，波恩提醒人们，一个女人可以有疑虑，但仍然是一个好妈妈。她可以感到失望，但仍然是一个好妈妈。最重要的是，她可以做她自己，忘记虚伪的随遇而安的心态，仍然是一个好妈妈。

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