生活英语听力文章：必备的握手礼仪小贴士
Handshakes Really Do Matter
学会握手真的很重要
The impression you make on people through your handshake influences how they feel about you. A proper handshake is even more important when meeting people for the first time. First impressions are lasting impressions. The manner in which you extend your hand, the degree of firmness and the timing demonstrate your poise and confidence and will inevitably set the tone for your relationship. In this lesson we will explore the specifics of handshake etiquette and examine how a handshake can enhance your brand.
通过握手给人留下的第一印象影响到别人对你的感觉。正确握手在首次会面尤为重要。第一印象是永久性的。你的镇静和自信会体现在你伸手的方式，握手松紧度和握手时间上，这无疑会为你们的关系打下基础。本课将探讨握手礼仪的细节以及检验握手是如何加深别人对你的印象。
I know some of you are thinking, Come on Todd, I know how to shake someone’s hand. But realistically when was the last time you analyzed your handshake?
你们当中有些人肯定在想：“得了吧，托德，握手谁不会啊!”但说实话，你上次和别人握手是什么时候呢?
Consider these questions:
思考以下问题：
If you are a male and you meet a female, who should extend their hand first?
If you are a male and you are meeting another male, who should extend his hand first?
If you are a female and you are meeting a male, who should extend their hand first?
If you are a female and you are meeting another female, who should extend her hand first?
如果你是一位男士，你将要和一名女士见面，那么握手时谁应该先伸手呢?如果你是一位男士，你将要和另一位男士见面，那么又该谁先伸手呢?如果你是一名女士，将要会见一位男士，这时谁先伸手呢?如果你是一名女士，将要与另一名女士见面，你们谁该先伸手呢?
Here are the answers:
以下就是答案：
If you are a male and you are meeting a female, you should wait for her to extend her hand first. If she does not initiate a handshake, do not be offended.
If you are a male and you are meeting another male, you should always extend your hand first. This is a sign of confidence and self-assurance.
If you are a female and you are meeting a male, you should extend your hand first. Even though women are a significant part of the business world, men are still confused about proper behavior. Be mindful and extend your hand. This will put the man at ease and is also sign of your confidence and self-assurance.
If you are a female and you are meeting another female, my successful female friends tell me they always extend their hand first in a business setting.
Here are a few more questions to consider:
如果你是位男士并将会见一位女士，你应该等她先伸手，如果对方没有要和你握手的意思，就不会显得冒昧。如果你要和一位男士见面，你应该先伸手，这样能显示出你的自信。如果你是名女士，在与男士见面的时候你要先伸手。即便女性在商业活动中举足轻重，男人们也会显得手足无措。记住要先伸手，这样会让对方放松并显示你的自信。如果你要和一名女性见面，在商务情景下，通常要先伸手，这是我从一位成功的女性朋友那得知的。再思考一下下面这些问题：
When should you shake someone’s hand?
什么时候该和别人握手?
Every time I greet a male I shake his hand. Every time I meet a female who extends her hand to me, I shake it. This simple rule applies if it’s a Super bowl party or a business meeting.
每次我和男性朋友打招呼都会主动握手，而每次和女性朋友见面都会等她先伸手。这一简单原则在超级大派对和商务会议中都能用。
How firmly should you squeeze someone’s hand?
握多紧合适?
Well, you don’t want to feel like a limp noodle nor do you want to crack their knuckles. The best description I can offer you is “comfortably firm.” This is true for both men and women. In business, I have never heard of an occasion where either a male or female would consider a soft, wimpy handshake acceptable. How would you describe your handshake? Firm? Aggressive? Wimpy? If you don’t know, shake the hand of a good friend and ask for feedback.
好吧，你不会想像面条那样软绵绵的，也不会想要把对方的关节弄断。我能给你的最好建议是“以舒适为上”，无论男女都一样。在生意中，我还从未听谁说过(无论男女)他们能接受柔软无力的握手。你觉得你的握手怎么样?是坚定?咄咄逼人?还是软绵绵?如果你也不清楚，那就找个好朋友试试，并让他们评价一下。
As you shake people’s hands make sure you grip their entire hand and not just their fingers because you closed your hand prematurely. I hate it when that happens!
握手时确保握着对方整只手而不要因为过早收回手而只握到对方的手指。我很讨厌那样的行为!
When should you let go of your grip?
什么时候该放手?
The answer: You should let go, when they let go. I often encounter people who want to hold my hand for an extra few seconds as they greet me. So as long as they want to hold my hand, I hold theirs.
答案是：对方放手的时候你再放手。我经常遇到这样的人——他们向我打招呼握手时总想着多握几分钟。所以，只要他们不放手，那我也会一直握着。
Furthermore, you don’t want to hurry out of the handshake, as this will be an indication that you are not genuine in your greeting but rather just using the motion as a formality.
此外，你不会想早早就收回你的手，因为这表示你不是在真心打招呼，而只是为了走个形式。
One last question. Let’s see how you do on this one.
最后，看看你是怎么处理下面这种情况的：
If you extend your hand to people and they do not extend their hand in return, what should you do? Should you retract your hand or hold your hand there until they accept it?
The answer: hold it there until they grasp your hand. Removing your hand conveys a lack of confidence.
如果你向别人伸手，而对方没有回应，你该怎么办呢?你该缩回手还是一直伸着等对方握手呢?答案是：一直伸着等对方握你的手。如果你收回手就会显得不自信。
Here’s my challenge to you. Beginning with the next person you meet, focus on making a positive impression of yourself through your handshake. It may be a little uncomfortable or awkward at first, but like every lesson you are learning, the more you practice it, the better you will do.
下面进入挑战阶段。从你接下来遇到的第一个人开始，专注于通过握手给对方留下一个好印象。一开始可能会有点不自在甚至尴尬，但这就像你学东西一样，熟能生巧。
If you will focus on doing the little things to make a positive impression on others, your value to the market will grow and your life will become more enjoyable and fulfilling.
如果你能通过关注细节留给别人好印象，你的市场价值会因此上升，你的生活也会更惬意，更有意义。
