人生不设限·如何与他人相处

HOW DO YOU RELATE TO OTHERS?

强烈意识到生命的目的，拥有崇高的盼望与持久的信心，自重自爱，抱持正面态度，而且坦然无惧，懂得随机应变，有掌控变化的能力，这些条件对你很有帮助，但终究没人能单打独斗。我当然很重视我照顾自己的能力，尽可能变得独立，不过我就跟所有人一样，在很大程度上还是必须仰赖身旁的人。

A strong sense of purpose, high hopes, abiding faith, self-love, a positive attitude, fearlessness, resilience, and mastery of change will take you a long way, but no one makes it alone. To be sure, I value my ability to take care of myself. I worked hard to become as independent as possible. But I am still dependent on the people around me, just as we all are to a great degree.

人们常问我：“生活上经常要依靠别人，很辛苦吧?”我的回答是：“你说呢?”无论你有没有察觉到，其实你依赖周遭人的程度跟我是一样的。没有别人的帮助，有些事我就做不成，但我不知道在这个地球上，有谁是不必仰赖他人的智慧、好意和帮助就可以成功的。

Often I am asked, "Isn't it hard to rely so much on others?" And my response is, "You tell me." Whether you acknowledge it or not, you depend on those around you nearly as much as I do. Some tasks I need help managing, but no one on this earth succeeds without benefiting from the wisdom, the kindness, or the helping hands of someone else.

我们都需要别人的支持，都需要跟志趣相投的人交往，所以一定要建立信任，也让自己值得信赖。我们要知道，大部分人都是本能地基于自身利益而行动，但如果你能表现出对他人的关心，并帮助他们成功，大多数人也会如此对待你。

We all need supportive relationships. We all must engage with kindred spirits. To do that effectively, we must build trust and prove ourselves trustworthy. We must understand that most people instinctively act out of self-interest, but if you show them that you are interested in them and invested in their success, most will do the same for you.